I've always been into jewelry. I used to own a variety of jewelry, but due to unfortunate circumstances most of them had to go so I could afford rent after I lost my job. My husband never got lucky to land a job. Thankfully now I have a stable job that gets by from month to month. I also kept one set of jewelry that's the most valuable, whether momentarily or sentimentally, since it's a part of a family heirloom. The set includes a pair of earrings, a bracelet, and a necklace. All good material, and again, they're worth a decent amount of money. My brother-in-law has been one then girlfriend for 10 years and recently got married. It was a huge deal for the family. My husband wanted to get them a decent wedding gift and tried borrowing money from friends and neighbors, but got turned down. He kept stressing out about it for weeks, and just the other day I discovered that my jewelry set was gone. I freaked out. My husband nonchalantly said he gifted it to his brother's wife as a wedding gift. I was fuming. I asked, how could he? He replied that he had no money and nothing of value to give the newlyweds. And besides, that said, I'd been sitting in the closet since July 2019 and never wore any piece of it, so I figured I'd forgotten about it. He said he'll figure a way to pay me back or get some similar piece. I very loudly told him absolutely not and gave him three days, just three days, to return the set or I'll stop paying for everything in the apartment. He looked puzzled, like he couldn't believe I was serious. He said he doesn't want to cause an issue, but I said there already is one. And if he doesn't want an issue, all he has to do is contact his brother or the wife and retrieve it. He tried to twist the argument and offer the same solution as mentioned above, but I refused. I said I just want my set back and he has three days only. He kept talking about how tasteless and disrespectful it'd be for him to retrieve a wedding gift and said this will damage the relationship with his brother and the family and how impossible it would be to retrieve a set in three days when the couple are on their honeymoon in another country. Am I the asshole for this? He said I was financially abusing him and threatening to stop paying for everything, knowing I am the breadwinner. He also refused to give me their contact info to retrieve the set myself.

I don't think you were wrong at all. I wouldn't have given him three days. I would have kicked his ass to the curb and gone over there myself and been like, I want my jewelry back. And maybe even called the police.