I'm a stay-at-home mom and my husband works full-time. We have three kids and one of them is young. My husband helps a lot with the kids He's a committed dad, but is absolutely against babysitters due to an awful incident with babysitter. That's the reason his younger cousin got disabled years ago I don't go out much since I take the kids with me and not every place is suitable for kids We received an invitation for my brother's wedding, which we later discovered was child-free My brother lives states away so the entire trip will take four days as well as my brother's in-laws weekend dinner party I told my husband I want to go since it's been a while. I've been wanting to go to a wedding and this one's so special We should get a trusted friend as babysitter he asked if I was serious to consider leaving our baby with a babysitter and Suggested that I do what I normally do and stay home with the kids while he goes to the wedding I refused and said I have as much right to attend the wedding as him since we're both invited He said it wasn't his fault. My brother wants a child-free wedding and I should do this for the kids and sacrifice for their sake I still refused and said this is unfair and since he's a parent to he should stay for the kids He looked at me and said that's my best friend's wedding. You're asking me to skip for Christ's sake. Are you kidding me? Then said I was being petty for suggesting this and that I was basically choosing to go and party over keeping our kids safe He asked me to consider this as a business trip. What would I do go with him and leave the kids? I Said I understand his paranoia babysitters, but really all my friends of sitters and at times they're really needed He said I ought to know better than what my friends are telling me and this isn't even up for discussion when I kept arguing he called me selfish and said he won't let me ruin his relationship with his friend because I was being spiteful for not being able to attend and That my brother will understand this to asian He keeps asking who's more important a wedding or my kids?