I want to start by saying I don't have the best relationship with my mom. I have an older sister and growing up my mom always tended to control me and tried to override any decision I made by saying I was young and naive and she always knew better. I caught contact with her a few months after she tried getting involved in my marriage. My husband and I have been together for three years and he's always been telling me to be more gentle with my mom. I had a miscarriage a few days ago. It was devastating and I really thought it'd get easier but I'm still feeling excruciating pain and frustration. We were happy and excited but all that disappeared suddenly and it was hard for me to take it because I thought everything was fine. I didn't tell anyone especially since I'm currently dealing with some health issues. I didn't tell anyone in the family. My husband had promised not to tell until I was ready. My mom kept asking me questions and brought my pregnancy up constantly and my answers were short because I didn't want her to know since she'd call everyone and let them know. She's always doing things like this. That's why I tend to keep things private. I decided to not visit her for a couple days hoping she'd stop asking questions. Then I found out on Facebook that my mom announced my miscarriage on her page and I didn't know about that. I was shocked. I freaked out when I started getting calls from family members and I have no idea how many people knew about it. I was so mad to the point I was shaking. Everyone kept berating me for not telling them. I called my mom and yelled at her. She defended herself saying that she was just looking for support and I should have told her about it first. Then she asked what was wrong. I asked her who she told and she said that she had a talk with my doctor but I shouldn't be mad because she's my mom and she had the right to know what was going on. I argued with her about getting involved in my personal life and disregarding my feelings and cutting me off guard like that. I went to the doctor and I lashed out on her for releasing my private medical information to my mom and causing me to deal with everyone asking why I was hiding my miscarriage from them even though I was just waiting for the right time. I told my doctor that I was going to file a complaint against her the same day since she didn't respect my privacy and decided to give my mom information about my medical records. My mom heard and started berating me saying it wasn't the doctor's fault and that she was a friend of hers she knew years ago but I didn't know about it. She said I went too far and acted like families were strangers. She said that she's my mom. I didn't need to overreact like that. All I needed was time and space. Now I have to deal with all this stress and I'm a mess right now. My brother texted me a few minutes ago and said he wants to come over and talk to me. He was the first to call me and berate me and said I was being hostile towards everyone for no reason. I haven't replied to his texts yet but I don't want to see anyone right now. I can't take one more word from them.