I got pregnant with my son Julius about a month after my birthday. I tried to do what's best for him and he got into a good engineering school. But at a young age, he got his then girlfriend, he's a pregnant and they had Annabelle together. I've been the one who's mostly raised her. Julius got married to his girlfriend, Kadeisha after graduation and they had two wonderful boys together. Annabelle lives with me and not with them. The thing is, Julius never spends time with Annabelle. He doesn't even call her to say good night, but she loves him so much. It's like once a month he'll show up with a box full of toys, spend a day with her, then go back to his family. It hurts her so much she doesn't spend time with her because he's her hero. I'm just grandma and no, he doesn't act this way because of his wife. Kadeisha would love to have Annabelle move in with them. She once brought it up and she went on about the things that they could do together. She would love to be her stepmom, calls her princess and sweetie and so many nicknames. The only reason they haven't is because Julius said she should stay with me. A few days ago, Julius told me that him and Kadeisha were planning a trip to Disneyland in August. I told him that Annabelle would be so excited and he should tell her on her birthday. He just blankly told me she's not coming on the trip and it's for his boys. I made it clear to him that he needed to bring her on the trip and he just called me an asshole which he's never done before for trying to control him. I admit I was a bit controlling in my reaction, but I don't think I went that far.