I just want to thank everyone who commented on the situation. I read through them all and it really helped me process. I spoke with my mom a few hours ago the night after I posted and she apologized for her comment about my wife and I hanging all over each other. I apologized for putting her in a situation she was in and that I generally thought he had known. She basically said it was okay. He knows now and not to worry. She talked to him and told him we were together, but didn't tell him we were married. Which she said needed to come from me. I agreed. I said I was gonna give him some time to process and reflect on things and I didn't want to reach out too soon before he was ready. I waited a week to talk to him and that time an auto mindset she spoke with him. She spoke for a while and his general sentiment was that he was worried that we would lead happy lives together. Could we find a home? Could we have kids? We'll be able to keep our jobs. She said that they had a really good talk and that she was able to reassure him on his worries. She told me I should talk to him and give him a chance to see how happy we are. This weekend I went to visit him, my aunt and my mom came too.