I just started dating this girl I really like a couple months ago. I was hanging out with my friend Joe, who is also my agent and has a crush on this girl Sarah. Anyway, we were all hanging out and there were no more seats in the car so I suggested she sit on Joe's lap. But she chose to sit on mine so I put a jacket on my lap so she wasn't directly on me. I felt really uncomfortable because she's sitting her bony ass on me while I have a girlfriend in she knows. Anyway, when we stopped to get gas I made her sit on my friend's lap instead and she started to full on cry because I didn't want her to sit on me. And I had put a jacket down. I felt awkward and bad for my friend who likes her because she was sitting and crying on his lap and said I was a jerk. She ended up texting me saying we have to talk about us. I said what are you talking about us? And she said I was giving her mixed signals because she thought there was something between us. I said no I'm like this with all my friends. She said I thought you were like this with Joe as a joke because he's your friend but me it's because you liked me. And that made her confused because she knows I have a girlfriend. I said nope I'm like this with everyone. And told her I'm happy with my girlfriend and I don't want to date her. She called me an asshole and I haven't seen her since. My best friend texted me and said I was being an asshole. Told my girlfriend against my friend's wishes. And she laughed and said boys are so oblivious and that she could tell Sarah had a crush on me but she trusted me to make the right choices. Basically she didn't really care. Just thought Sarah was kind of crappy for trying to go with a guy with a girlfriend. I legit didn't really know she had a crush on me. It's kind of dawned on me that night. I never pursued her. I slept over at her house once. I was too drunk to drive but I slept on the floor and didn't let her near me. And I would mention my girlfriend a lot because I'm excited about dating her. Apparently she thought I liked her because she once asked me if I would join her art club and I said sure. I don't understand girls. I really don't.

No, not the asshole because consent, consent, consent. Also, it is your choice to be able to make the decision whether you want to date someone or not.

No one can get mad at someone for saying no. That is bullshit. They are the assholes.

Is the answer for like because honestly your comfortability should've been over everything in the relationship if she knew you were uncomfortable which she probably did she would've stopped but she didn't so she's probably the asshole in this at this point and she knew you had a girlfriend so that just shows she'd probably want you to cheat on her