My son Aiden moved back in with us upon graduating college as my husband wanted. My husband's original plan was to have Aiden live with us for free but stay home and help us with his disabled brother. Aiden started complaining about needing money and wanting to find a job. My husband was against this and even offered to double his allowance but Aiden was growing tired of staying at home. So he began looking for jobs here and there for over a year but none of his job applications came through. He just applied and they would never get back to him. We were confused by this till recently. I found out that my husband was behind all the job applications being canceled. He waited till Aiden applies then proceeds to cancel the application by impersonating him and using his email. I blew up at him for this but his justification is that he's just trying to make sure that our younger son is cared for by Aiden and said that Aiden has been a big help and him getting a job will affect his care for his brother. I went ahead and rented an apartment for Aiden and told him to stay there till he finds a job and starts paying for it himself. Aiden was hurt upon knowing what his dad did. My husband was livid when he found out. He called me unhinged and said I was separating the boys and teaching Aiden to become selfish and care more about a job than family. He also said it was a huge decision for me to rent an apartment without even running it with him. He's been giving me hell about it and is calling me a terrible mother for encouraging Aiden to be selfish and self-centered. He said I needed to see and understand why he did what he did.