I'm a software engineer with a full-time job and a side hustle of doing freelance coding work in my own time. I've always been the type to have a side hustle I put a lot of my free time into. I get really bored sitting idle. My freelance hourly rates are $60 an hour and at my full-time job, my hourly pay works out to be about $40 an hour. So that's how I value my time. Anyway, over Christmas vacation, I was staying at my parents' house. My cousin was also staying over with her three kids from Christmas to New Year's. I've been planning on doing some work on my freelance project when I have free time in the mornings when my parents had no plans. I wasn't in any rush. I was already ahead of schedule on the mall, but I didn't really have anything else to do. It was in a really rural area and it's like an hour drive to the nearest anything. Then my cousin and her husband asked if I could babysit all day for three days so they could visit some friends in the area and hang out with just adults. I said I had planned on doing freelance work at the library and she offered to pay me to babysit. I said I could if they got close to my freelance rates. She wanted a number and although my freelance rates are 60, I didn't feel that was right. It was too high. But I didn't want to go too low. Honestly, babysitting three kids would be harder for me than routine coding work I had for my freelance project. I don't know a lot about kids and I've never babysat for long and I had a feeling it would be stressful and difficult. So I said 35, which is below what I make hourly at work. And what is the bare minimum I value my time for if that time is spent doing difficult work? And she went crazy at me saying that's a ridiculous rate for babysitting, that I was entitled and being selfish, that I'm trying to take advantage on how she didn't have other options. I said that's way below what I'd be making if I had time to do my own work and I'd be putting off my own work to babysit. Her husband then got mad at me saying that I was a 24 year old girl, that I'm damn near a child myself, that my time is not worth that much and it's childish to say that it was. And that I was a stupid girl for not knowing that babysitting costs like $15 an hour. And when I grow up and have kids of my own, I will see how stupid I was being. I was kind of done with being called stupid. So I told them I hope they could find someone else. My mom thinks I asked for something offensive. And my cousin and her husband obviously did too. Am I the asshole for giving that number?