okay i have a problem and i need some advice so my boyfriend and i just rented our first apartment apartment and he has worked really early in the morning at like 4am and he uses an alarm that's like super loud and annoying to wake up and i have PTSD because i was woken up abruptly for a medical emergency and since then any noise in the middle of the night or in the early morning like jars me awake and I'll have panic attacks and like it's really bad and so I'm wondering because we're sharing a bedroom it's a one-bedroom apartment like how how do we juggle this how like does he not use an alarm do I need to do something different so I'm not affected by the alarm like how can we Where's the compromise here where we can both like get what we need?

This is a great question as I'm in my partners also said to me because I I use the very loud like Bella read alarm get a bad thing so what we did that that made a difference was we changed it to a lack of birds chirping with a more relaxing sound or the other solution is he was Wireless headphones as comfortable but in one ear and then

Well that sounds terrible, so I'm really sorry for your experience with that. I have PTSD with knocking in the middle of the night, like loud knocking, and it doesn't even have to be in the middle of the night I guess, but so I get that to an extent. So I mean either just like a quieter, like a sing-songy alarm, or like getting an Apple Watch or something that will like buzz him and wake him up, but won't be loud and won't wake you up might be a good idea. I don't know.

Oh my God I'm so sorry to hear that sleep on the fucking couch damn he got fucking work in the morning get your ass on the couch

Have you tried using your plugs so I don't know I don't know I don't use them I don't know if they actually work or not but that may be why you would still have to like somehow wake up if you have stuff to do though but yeah maybe try that I don't know

You can try a combination of different things on I've stuck with earplugs before and nothing wakes me up when I have those and I know it's different for every person but that's when you can try one thing that I do personally that helps me wake up just because I have a super hard time waking up and I'm very heavy sleeper is I wear my Apple Watch to bed and it will vibrate with my alarm so I have some that's physically waking me up and I can silence it to

Oh yeah, I like the idea of it buzzing instead of like making an actual sound. That's a good idea too.