I'm sorry you've had that experience. That sounds really strange. I assure you they're not all like that. I found a really good therapist, but But yeah, that would definitely turn me off therapy if I had that kind of an experience.

If someone was just starting that process, what advice would you give to shift from like blame to forgiveness or acceptance.

I would say you don't even have to forgive. Just like acknowledge that it happened, acknowledge that it already happened and that there's no going back or changing anything. So that fact alone should be enough for the person to be to realize like okay there's no reason to stay hung up on this.

It's easier said than done, but it's a slow process. And you gotta see it, like, you gotta see pieces of it at a time because you can't just like take in the whole thing and be like, oh yeah, I understand what you mean. Like, no, it's a process. And you gotta slowly start letting go. And it's gonna take a while, but it's worth it because in the end, you'll be mentally in a better place and you won't be like having to think about that past event.

This is such good advice, especially when you say it's a slow process, because I relate to that. I went through that as well, and it's kind of like eventually you start learning that you're just hurting yourself more by continuing to have a reaction to something that already happened that can't be changed. So you're only hurting yourself by continuing to be upset about it or things like that. easier said than done though, but...

Well that is really awesome and I know what you mean about like playing a character is different. I used to do theater and I was always so extroverted because it just felt like it wasn't me so it didn't matter. But yeah like doing stand-up comedy where it's just you and it's your own personality in front of people live like that. That would be nerve-wracking. So that's awesome that you're getting into that and doing that and it's helping.

Yeah, and that's cool you did theater. So yeah, you probably know a little bit of kind of what I mean and I didn't even get to what the therapy helped with but basically just like trying to Help you give yourself affirmations not lie yourself not be like you're the funniest person ever But just to tell yourself like you've accomplished a lot to get here You know, this is all the stuff you've done with hard work people you've gotten here because some people like you obviously and You know at the end of the day, this doesn't matter. It's just a branch off you're just having fun and you'll go home and everything will be the same.

I love this and I wish that more people would like base their accomplishments not on like the outcome of things but more on the journey. Like you said how like you got up there, you got in front of people, you just enjoyed the experience and like it was a new thing for you. Like that in and of itself is an accomplishment whether or not the audience received it or you made a lot of money doing stand-up comedy or whatever. I feel like people are too focused on like the outcome comments.

I also feel like that's when I really started like moving forward in my life and getting more confident was when I focused on that journey when I was just like, okay, the accomplishment is like getting myself out of my comfort zone and not even like caring what the outcome was. Like I'm going to try this thing in business and I don't care if it works or if it flops, I'm going to try it and then see what happens and the whole confidence comes from the act of trying.