Okay, I want you guys to hear about this dilemma going on between this girl and a friend of hers. So this friend is someone who she's considered a best friend for a very long time and this girl lately, every time she calls, is only to talk about her life. She doesn't ever ask about how this girl's doing or what's going on in her life. She just keeps talking about herself and she trauma dumps with whatever drama she has. I understand that, you know, a huge part of is being there for each other through thick and thin. Thick or thin, right? But I feel like that's not really a friendship. That's just super one-sided and if I was this girl, I would personally distance myself because that just sounds beyond mentally draining, especially talking to someone like that for hours on end where this person's not getting the hint. And yeah, I just, I feel like that's just super messy and I am at this point in my life where I don't want to be involved in anything like that, but that's just me. How would you handle it?
I experienced this about 10 years ago with a friend of mine and I waited to have the conversation until kind of was just too emotional to really talk about it and address it. So you know as far as like advice now is speak up. Friendship goes both ways and if someone is just always bringing you down with their toxicity you need to let them know straight up.
She could just be neurotypical. I'm neurotypical and I tend to like have to tell myself in the middle of conversations, hey how long have you been talking? Have you asked them about themselves? A lot of times when someone says, hey how are you? I'll answer them how I am but I never remember to say and yourself because I'm just really answering questions, you know? It's not so much as me thinking about the next line or what's polite. It's more so they ask a question they want to answer.