One thing I ask of lotta my clients who try to get back into dating find the one that I ask them what's your five-year plan what is your life like five years from now where do you work when do you wake up what's your day look like who are you with where do you live and what is your daily routine and the reason I ask this is because a lot of us fail to really plan or think about what we want in our lives and if you don't have a goal or trajectory or a future plan it's going to be very difficult to meet someone who will align with that plan listen as human beings we get along with people naturally and you can just get along with someone but at the end of the day no matter how attracted you are to someone how well you get along with them if your plans don't align and the two of you have very different ideas of what your future looks like You can't be successful long-term so remember that know what you want in the future know what you're looking for be consistent dating and be upfront with your intentions