So I'm going to do a two-parter to this, but my first question is, if you've ever been cheated, what was your first thought process? Like what were you thinking? Did you ever think that you were the problem or that you just weren't good? Like, let me know. I'm obviously, you know, when I was dating, I definitely, I did get cheated on and that it sucks. For me, I was like, why? Like I literally did everything. And I feel like even when you do everything, people just don't take you for what you are. They're always trying to look for something better until they cannot. And so I think it took a little while for me to realize that, you know, you can't, you can't expect people to do the same shit for you or be as committed as you like you are for them and so it's I don't know for me it kind of helps me let that whole thing go just because it's like I don't know I don't want to hold any grudges or any anger towards them but I don't know that's just how I moved on thankfully so I want to know what was the thought process or how did you guys get through a breakup when someone cheated.

How did I handle figuring out when someone cheated on me? I... Ah, shit. I made them think for a little... I gave them the chance to be honest with me. So I made them think that I didn't know. And I just asked questions. Asked questions. And I'm like, I'm gonna ask you one more time. Takatakata. They're gonna say some stuff. I'm gonna ask you one more. Like, I'm telling you don't play me as a stupid bitch because I'm not that. And then here, what will they do? stupid bitch. Bye, sayonara.

OK I got pretty petty my ex fiancé cheated on me and I found out three weeks before we were supposed to elope and I called his mom he didn't like me at all and I called his mom and I was like hey just so you know I'm you don't have to worry about me anymore because your son just cheated on me with some girl so you got your wish he was not happy that I called his mother at all

I mean I didn't get to the core of my pettiness I immediately called American Airlines and a voucher of my flight to go see him and I use that flight like three months later to go now somebody else on his dime

How did I handle someone cheating on me um Absolutely go through them said nothing they deserve to know nothing because they didn't give me anything

I took them back because I was stupid, but I don't know I used to give people like multiple tries body blah but now I'm leaving out the sign of the first red flag so I feel like I've definitely improved.

I'm sorry I got cheated on her phone and nothing was you know where but it was only one side thing though I got my leg back I cheated back but when I get my leg back I get worse as shit with his homeboy and then not only that I told him that his homeboy is bigger than his and then I cut it off with him so yeah

So there's been a few times when I found out that I was getting cheated on by the time that sticks out to me the most is when I was pregnant with my youngest daughter so and to be honest with you she really gave me like a calm that I've never experienced I don't know how to explain it like I was angry on the inside but I didn't let it show on the outside and I did the same thing that one of the other people on here that I kind of like make him think that I didn't know and kind of tried to I

I know you're glad about that too because that means I would have found you Okay time to get my ass out of bed. I love you baby. I will see you shortly