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Happy Friday everyone! I'm up early at the butt crack of dawn. I have a question though. Have you guys ever tried to self sabotage your relationship or marriage whatever the case is? I think relationships probably fitting but I definitely did in my past. I feel like when you finally reach a healthy relationship or you finally meet someone that's like a breath of fresh air, you really expect the worst just because of how your past was or whatever the case is, and you're not taking that person for what they are or who they're showing you. And so I feel like I still am learning. But man, that's so tough. But has this ever happened to you guys? Or, you know, have you heard any stories about self-sabotaging a relationship? Let me know.
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OK so I am yes I have noticed even in my current relationship that's at times in the past I have tried to self sabotage it and I don't mean it I'm just kind of getting used to receiving love and really wanting it from one particular person so definitely overcome they're not acting like that anymore but yes
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Crazy on like relationship. Can't talk how relationships can really scar a person because I had an ex before that would like be like Oh, well, we're gonna break up if da da da da da and it's like damn And so I told him about this and he's always super reassuring Even if we don't agree on something he's like look, we're not gonna break up over this like I hope you know that You know, we're not gonna get a divorce or we're like, it's so reassuring.
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Right I realize in a relationship that just because one thing does not work out and you guys don't see head-to-head any Butthead doesn't matter fact that does not mean y'all are gonna break up it's a literally a OK it's normal to not see Eye 2 Eye
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This is such an excellent question. I feel like I haven't done it intentionally But sometimes things about relationships do scare me and that might have like pushed me away from like some people So it's giving yes.
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Yeah, me and my husband actually just had a conversation about it because I'm like, uh, I know I did it, you know, in our relationship before we got married and everything. So it's like, uh.
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Right like sometimes we do things that are kind of like unknown to us subconsciously but we definitely do things the south sabotage because we're scared of some thing
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Yes, yes, yes, yes. Um, absolutely agree. I, it's so hard. It's, I feel like it'd be so funny or so crazy for someone to be like, oh, I don't know if it's sabotage, but I feel like in some way, like we all somewhat do it, you know, because we all think something about ourselves. but um yeah I agree
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definitely yes sometimes in the bottom I try to find excuses to leave but I feel like it's because my brain sees me in a established relationship or something.
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After that I start to self-sabotage myself. It's just the worst feeling.
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completely get you and I feel like we do that a lot to ourselves not intentionally, but I think it's just it's a fear that we have and You know when we're by ourselves or we're thinking or whatever whatever is happening, you know, we are our worst enemies sometimes, you know. So I will say reassurance definitely goes a long way in relationships
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Yeah but sometimes I'd most the time I do that when I know this person is not good for me And sometimes it's either Like that I don't feel good enough for another person
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Well I feel like it's definitely, it seems like it's a mechanism to protect yourself. You know and you definitely are trying to protect yourself from being hurt or either hurting the other person because you think you're not good enough. You know but I think it's just up to that person to give you reassurance. You know and to let you know like hey I'm here. I'm gonna be here for you. You're right for me. I'm right for you.
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So I have borderline basically self sabotage is my middle name I can't tell you how many times I have tried to blow up my own marriage just because it out for whatever reason and thankfully my husbands he's passed my shit and it's pretty good at a Combating it
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And I feel like because he knows and understands you and I'm sure you guys have been together for a minute too It helps him You know kind of brush it off And also maybe helps like calm down the situation and helps like okay Let's think rational about like what's going on, you know, so that's good
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Definitely because I feel like a lot of people carry over trauma from your past relationships and then you start overthinking or slight starting arguments for no reason because you think someone is gonna hurt you because you have your guard up all the time
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I have a thousand million trillion percent agree and I feel like as much as we say like oh Like I've healed from the past or whatever Yes, you might have healed from it, but you don't forget what has happened. And so like you said that's brought on all it's brought on over and you know you somehow try to start an argument to try and protect yourself and it's like no.
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I mean, I think we probably all have one point to even realize it.
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For sure. And as much as people want to probably deny it, no, it's for sure happened.
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No I'm never self sabotaging you know my relationship I feel like that shit is like uncalled for at that point you need to really just find somebody new because who does that
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So you feel like the other person might have self-sabotaged or it just like ended before it got to that point
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