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I went on a date and we had to be discussed a whole bunch of topics on the date but we talked about can you tell me a little bit bad about his past relationship and kind of like when he fell about compromising and he felt like but do you think compromising is a form of what that's a really good question but me personally I don't because I feel like if it each party is like you're trying to come till like to eat like a equal understanding where like you're able to balance both parties like to make you know make each person feel happy about whatever that unsettled decision within the dispute is you guys are coming to an agreement on some thing where you can can you have can balance it out so to me personally I feel that you're not necessarily settling then it comes out at that point then it's not a compromise like if you're settling it's like you're not getting what you want at all when I think of compromising I'm thinking like OK Maybe I'm not gonna get exactly the what I want the way that I want it but I can still get it in a certain form where I am still pleased or satisfied I feel like when you're settling you're not satisfied at all you know I mean like what are y'all think but I just I'm rambling but I just kind of want to know this is like raw soundbites I just wanted to like like you guys into my brain
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Man I wish it was longer but I don't believe compromising necessarily had to have a negative connotation I think it's really just circumstantial to what am I the answers to one question for I think like willingness can be a synonym for it what do you want to do
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For example like relationally of any stature of a lot of us you know and I own individuality come into our friendships and relationships already with plans and hobbies and things that the one or the other may not necessarily do I have any routine but your willingness to participate
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Anyone that wants to do that with you I think it's not missing a form of settling or you know could be a form of reciprocity I think this is very multifaceted how do you see it you know it's all about perception about different things like that
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But then being fruitfully honest, the other side of the spectrum is you go to a car lot and they have a car that's almost perfectly spec'd the way that you want, but they may be missing a one or two things, are you still willing to take it or are you going to wait out for the very perfect day.
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1000% agree willingness is extremely important because without that you're not gonna be willing to do anything you won't be able to compromise in anyway shape or form is always going to be like an argument and it's like you can agree to disagree however
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However it's kind of like you just will never come or me a common grounds like it'll constantly be like you will start up like you're settling if you're not willing to do anything because I just kind of like overlooking the other parties design
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Wait a minute for a second you were sounding like you're from the States and then and like your third one it was giving London Like somewhere in the UK. I'm like wait a minute. Where is he from?
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Also I thought that was a definitely a great example that you use because honestly that you're going to have your little checklist of things that you know you want an individual but there's obviously things that aren't as important as you think they are in the front end but they when you die
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I don't think compromise is a form of settling I think he can be but I don't think inherently that it is I think it is a form of acceptance because you're not going to get everything that you want
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Like in all honesty to have the unrealistic expectation that everything is going to be perfect all of the time and be there like you gon' have everything and it all be perfect all the time is madness.
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Now by no means am I saying you know settle I'm saying understand like swap out the things that actually matters to you versus some fringe benefits in it I mean
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Definitely madness for anybody in this world to everything that everything is going to go their way when they wanted to go their way how they wanted to go and just exactly the way they wanted to be so I agree with you on this place
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I love the way that you put that but yes I agree 1000% because honestly sometimes the things that we think we want like it's not like the top of our list it's so important to the point where it's a dealbreaker so I won thousand percent agree with this
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That what that was technically like my argument kind of stating that you're not settling because you're still getting the whole point of the compromise it's like you're still getting what you want that's most important do you know what I'm saying
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Compromising is maturity compromising is needed for a relationship to function you can't just break up at the first comfort do you have that's what working to complex is
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And I also don't think settling itself is necessarily bad because you want to settle with someone I feel like this is very new ones and it's very hard to get in 15 second voice clips but I will try
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I think settling is good and I think you can settle and compromise you can decide this is your person which then makes you want to compromise with them if that makes sense
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These need to be fucking longer oh my God but I'm yeah basically I'm thinking settling is what people make it out to be honestly and yeah
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Oh yes I feel like you hit the nail on the head with that one I definitely think it's a maturity thing for sure because I don't like as you do mature you realize certain things are in his head important as they once were to you like forward
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I like to be a great little mini example it's like you know growing up you later he's so cute he's so cute you're so cute like you just worried about all the surface level things just look smarter but it's like there's so many other things like the personality that attach the characteristics how they make
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All of these things like combined, maybe he wasn't like your number one draft pick in terms of looks, but all together there's like an equal balance to where it's like wow this is the person for me. So that's an
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Why are you trying to say that is a form of maturing or maturity etc. etc. I got these 15 seconds I agree not fucking enough like I just sometimes I can ramble but I got to like make 20 of these even get my appointment card so I get a girl
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I just prescribed it depends on if you prescribe to do birds of a feather flock together or opposites attract depending on which camp you're in you know I I think settling doesn't need to happen with comp...
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I kind of like the way you put that was very different but I still like I understand what you meant I feel I just I think it depends on the person because I feel like you're not gonna be willing to compromise or just anybody like it they have that person has to be worth
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Then I think of the day it just kind of boils down to once again what's truly important to you versus what's not based on what the girl said above you a lot there's a lot of variables that plan to it but I don't ever think having to copper
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Oh my God the sign of second I don't know how you guys just get your whole time 15 seconds like I literally commend all of y'all like wow wish I could be me cause I had to talk but thank you for sharing your thoughts and views appreciate you and I actually agree
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