Okay, so I have my last question Do you guys ever confide in your family or friends when you and your partner argue? so personal experience I'm saying no, I don't Me and my partner we've never argued. We definitely have disagreements, but we communicate very effectively I've learned though in my past that when you confide in your family or your friends about you know something that your partner has done wrong, they definitely for one will judge, but also it's harder for them to forgive your partner whereas you know you forgiving them. So I don't know for me I don't. I feel like, you know, when you have effective communication, it definitely is better. But if you can get an unbiased person, like a therapist, to talk to about whatever issue is going on, I think that's the better option. Once again, that's just my opinion, but chime in, let me know.