So I totally agree with you when you said about the whole that the relationship should be equal, right? That one shouldn't have this overwhelming power over the next, but we really have to see how we, I guess, view submission and what it means.

Like I'm a very independent woman and yet I feel like, you know, not only sexually, but I feel like I am somewhat submissive to my husband and that's only because I know he never abuses his power. Like I don't have to worry about him hurting me or exploiting me.

I really agree with the independent part as well because I'm a lot like that, but I feel like at the end of the day it's about how we view it.

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I love how you admitted that you've been having a problem with this because that's normal. Most women do, especially us women who are independent and have had to do everything for such a long time. It's almost scary to step down, but I feel like it just depends on that trust you have in your partner.

And it's not just trust, it's your partner's capability because you have to trust them enough to know that they're not going to abuse that power but also know that they are capable at getting done what needs to be done.

Like what you said, you know that your person doesn't abuse his power and that just means that you know him enough to submit. And so yeah, I think it's healthy.

A lot of people have problem with submitting or don't view submission in a different way simply because they've had a negative experience with it. So I definitely agree with you, it's all about how the person uses their power.

Thank you, miss. Like, thank you. This is the best response yet. Like, of course you should be submissive. You should be able to have the trust and belief that the person isn't going to do you wrong. Like, they have your best interests at heart. And if that's not the case, then you shouldn't be with them.

Absolutely, I definitely think it's also a lot about humility like knowing that your partner may be good at certain things and they should take the lead in those aspects and knowing that you're good at certain things and them also letting you take the lead. It's like you said it's it's a trade-off, it's a balance.

When you say submissive, I don't know if you're talking about the bedroom where it's like... I mean, I guess that's fine? But when you say submissive, it's like... I think of like a naughty dog looking sad. I think you should both...

You should both be equal. I hate the length of time you talk on here.

I apologize for not giving more context but I'm not in the sexual manner, I'm talking just in the relationship itself. And I think that's a, I guess almost like a big question for a lot of people in their relationship.

So I feel like if you were, depending on how you were raised, especially if you were raised religious, as in for women, we're always told that we have to submit, be submissive to our husbands and relinquish all control to them. So that's what my question to the listeners is how do you view the idea of submission?

I love that you're here for the tea. It's a genuine question and I feel like there's going to be different opinions about it especially because women are told since they're young that they have to be submissive to the men in the family. So I just wanted to see how that plays out in your future relationship.

So when two people get together, it's important that they understand one another and each other's goals and objectives. That way they can ensure that their goals and objectives are somewhat in alignment.

But regardless of how well these two people agree, at some point, they're going to have different ideas for how these goals should be met. That's when submission comes into play.

And so all submission is is one force yielding to another force. So when you reach those points where you disagree, but you want to continue moving forward with this person you will have to submit.

So I understand what you're saying and but what you're really describing there is a compromise, trying to find a middle ground, which is something that both of the partners are going to need to do at some point in the relationship.

Submission is relinquishing control to your partner. And that's where, that's why this question comes into play, because men sometimes think that women should all be submissive to them.

But should a man submit or relinquish control to his wife? That is the question. How do you view that submission? It's not just sexually but in the relationship dynamic itself.

Just to be clear, when I use the word yield, I mean to not resist, which is the same thing we're saying submit. I don't mean compromise. I mean to not resist, to give up control.

And before I didn't specify man or woman, but here I will clarify that I don't think that a man in a relationship should ever submit to a woman.

And my belief concerning that comes from me being brought up in the church and the Bible says that the woman should submit to the husband and the husband should love the wife as Christ loves the church.

It's okay, you don't have to explain your religious views here. This is more of a neutral zone, religious free zone. This is just how we view people to people. But you're absolutely right, the way you're brought up in religion does affect the way you view things.

Submission is a very dangerous kind of behavior and it is a double-edged sword. It can be very well be used against you so it's better for both parties to have a power in decision-making and be dominant.

I think it just really depends on how are you submitting. Like if you submit to your husband, you know you're married, that's something different, but not with every single topic or every single situation. So I think it really just depends.

I'ma be real with you miss, like, nobody wants to hear that, like, that's like, I mean, what? It's not dangerous, if it's dangerous then you're not with the right person and you should probably leave, so, man.