One Thing You Really Like When #Dating? 👀

Gem I am so happy that you have been single for so long and you are so content with yourself it's such a beautiful thing to say anything loading this is a bad thing I don't think feeling not feeling that is a bad thing I think each to their own but it's really nice to see that some people can relate and some people can't you know it's it's it's a balance

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John Stulpin• 570d

You know just cause you don't have a party doesn't mean you're lonely you create loneliness by being unhappy in your own situation

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I love that you're bringing up this topic. I think it's a very valid one. And I sort of very much felt the same when I was like single and I was going through like working on myself. And just realizing that there's so many people that just don't align with that. And I think it was tough to some extent for a while, but then I realized that most of my relationships started to add up to those standards that I've set for myself. myself.

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And I remember so clearly like thinking as well that I it would be hard to like find a romantic partner that would like add up to all those new standards and like the sort of different not demands because I don't think demands is healthy in a relationship but sort of those just new wishes that I wanted for a partner and I thought it it might be impossible even.

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So that sort of led me to like okay fuck it I'm just gonna be alone forever but then eventually I think what you're putting out into the world is gonna come back to you so if you're putting out that like self-love and working on yourself you're gonna eventually end up finding the one who has done the same and someone that you connect with on a deeper level and it happened for me and it and it was very much out of blue and I was very surprised but it just...

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It just like really worked and I'm so appreciative of actually doing that work on myself to get to where I am today because that very much led me to like have this deep relationship with him that I think it would have been different if I hadn't gone through that period of working on myself so yeah I hear you I've been lonely in that situation as well but it does get better and it it does feel better and at some point everything will more like align with you.

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Thank you so much and Avelina for your point of you I also love that you said that you realised your relationships started to add up to the standards which I am finding as well I'm finding more people who are like what I want them up necessarily for me but I think I have been shown that what I want does exist so it is comfort Inn in the waiting season if that makes sense I think it's a normal emotion to go through

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I love that you are a perfect example of hype and success it's a nice meeting and hearing stories from women like you because again it just adds to give me hope in the journey days periods of loneliness by literary literary literary period I am but I think it's interesting that once you stop entertaining the things that are not for you the quiet period cramps

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Yeah the quiet period can be long because now you're knocking out things that just don't make sense for you especially for the period that you're going to win this newfound version of yourself because what are used to eat isn't it you're eating now if that makes sense but I really appreciate you sharing and I'm so happy for you honestly I don't even know you but it brings me joy here in success stories like this

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Now that is super lovely to hear that. You feel like you're starting to find those people that add up to those new standards as well. And even though they're not necessarily for you, at least you have that sort of as proof and just an experience of realising that it's not far off. And even as we're changing and evolving, the people around us that come into our life will as well. And I think that is very good to realise that.

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And yeah, I do think that the loneliness is a very natural feeling to go through and even though it's a very hard one to tackle and It's a difficult one to feel. I think we grow so much out of that loneliness because it's when we actually Sit with ourselves for real. We're not turning to anyone else. We're just trying to work that through with ourselves and I think there's immense growth to be find in those periods of time and And...

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And yeah, thank you for sure. Yeah, like I think for me, I'm very happy the way things turned out for me and that I did meet someone that aligned so well with all the work I've been doing on myself. And now we're trying to work on ourselves like in a relationship as well, which is new. So it's always like learning and evolving. And yeah, it felt good, but like there's always progress to be made as well. And I think that's sort of the...

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