It's taken me six years to figure it out. I always felt guilty for asking even if it was for work, my husband has a full-time job and I'm a freelancer. So, of course, you know, it kind of feels like my work is less important even though it's not, but definitely take some practice and figuring out how that works for everyone.

It sounds like he'll be back soon and that's definitely something you can ask for some help with hopefully he'll be receptive so it's not like a big thing and you'll get some time to yourself and you'll get time with him which is nice I'm sure you don't I can't imagine my partner being away for that long it's gonna be hard

I'm sorry to hear that your boyfriends not involved it's got to be definitely tough on you I honestly give you a lot of credit for single mom Manhattan just curious if you have anyone else around that can help that you could ask for like just a little bit of time to be yourself I hope you get some time to yourself if not I don't know where you live but when my son was little the YMCA was like the best way to get a little bit of time to myself

Well that's good that you already have that going and yes it's been a game changer to know that when Wednesday comes around I have a nice long day work during the day and then have my night time at the car working space or to do whatever I need to do it's it's really it's really really nice so I hope it works out for you too

Oh yay! Well that's exciting. Yeah it's been really helpful for me. I'm actually sitting at my co-working space right now because it's Wednesday night. We also have recently implemented like a family meeting but then also like a parent powwow. So cheesy but my little guy doesn't need to be there for all the all the intricacies but family meeting we talk about what would make us happy..

Oh I like that I didn't they tell you about the white kindergarten teachers notebook I want to say yes I did but I'm having less and we're dealing with a chicken I thought I was breaking out in menopausal acne come to find out my chickens have mites and we don't know where that like they come from wild birds anyway they're all of them So yeah it's super fun it's super fun so my brain is like

I felt that way a lot on my son was little when he was first born I had a really bad postpartum anxiety and like I had to like watch him when he sleep when he slept and it was hard for me to even have a babysitter like we still only really have a babysitter besides family because I'm this freaks me out we did have a part-time nanny but she came to the house and I was home so I totally get how you feel And that's definitely part of the struggle right figuring that out

Yeah our pride isn't going to give us the self care and rest and fill your cup that we need and I don't know I was surprised when I started asking for what I needed like how responsive my husband was and then intern asking him for what he needed and if he came Way easier than I thought it would be

Well then I'm glad I shared and then it was something you need to hear think often times we live in our own little bubble and we think everybody else has stuff figured out and that we're the only ones that need some thing so hopefully I gave you give you permission to ask for the help that you need and that you get some support and get some time to yourself

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