I had to look up the word codependency before I concluded this whole series. My entire point is I don't have a problem with the patriarchal system. I just want for people who talk about value within a relationship to stop pretending like what they're not talking about is codependency. Okay? It's codependency. The patriarchy is built on codependency. You're filling a need in order to have value. You're filling a need in order to have value. You can make it sound like love. You can make it sound like a healthy relationship all day long. But all you're doing is filling a need in order to have value in a relationship. And honestly, if you don't have value as a person, if they don't love you for who you are and that is a fucking enough sir or ma'am then you're doing too much all right you shouldn't have to work so hard to keep the relationship afloat it should be as easy as saying I feel this way oh you do how can we make you feel better you know if it's not good oh you do How can we do more of it if it makes you feel good? That's it. That's all it literally is. It's not paying nobody's bills. It's not fulfilling any duties or obligations you have to fulfill in order to say you get a say in your relationship or where you would like the relationship to go in the next few years. It's none of those things. Even if you don't pay a single bill in the house, you still should be able to say, I would like with this relationship to go this way. And this is why. And state it. And then you guys talk it through. That's how it works.