It's been a while since I last posted, but a lot has happened, so I figured I should update you. Making this post has been an eye-opener for me, and it decided there and then that I was done. So, thanks to everyone who told me what I desperately needed to hear. I started gathering evidence which would allow me to leave relatively safely. After I had enough evidence, I prepared to leave. It gathered all documents, secretly packed up some stuff for the kids and myself. I informed my parents and my brother about the situation. My parents immediately turned to my brother's old room into the new kid's room, and my old room has never stopped being mine. I waited for my husband to be gone, then my brother picked us all up. I left a message for my husband and claimed that I wasn't coming back and that I'd be filing a divorce. I also told him about all the evidence, though he wouldn't do anything stupid. I've been at my parents for nearly a week now. We have a carer who stays here three nights a week, and I share the other four nights with both my parents. My dad is retired so he looks after the kids for a good portion of the day. I have talked to a lawyer and she said I will likely get full custody. My soon to be ex has left some nasty messages, but hasn't shown up so I feel relatively safe. I don't think I'll fight for custody since he was always disappointed that our daughter wasn't our son, and our son isn't the strong little boy that he wanted either. As of now, I will stay with my parents. The kids are happy, my parents are happy, and I had seven hours of sleep last night.