So the unexpected thing about motherhood is that I was told that I'll wait until you have kids you know you'll have you'll be surrounded by people that love and care for your child it'll be a village because everyone always says it takes a village to raise kids I'm sorry but that is not true at all and that is such like a disappointment to tell someone and then it turns out they don't have anyone me personally I don't really have anybody as a mom of three There are certain family members that are never around my kids they could care less about my kids I've had friends that are no longer my friends anymore because I have kids because I can't go out every single Friday night or whatever the case may be and that I wish someone would've told me that be prepared for certain people to change and not wanting to be around you like you know like I said you know you don't have friends that come around no more especially like family like you would think that all family would stick around Yep nope not in my case and I think as my kids become parents I think that this is one advice that I will give them do you not expect everyone to be in your life throughout You being a parent because you were going to be so disappointed and in the entire you know I my oldest will be eight in a few months and then you don't have a tear on a one year old so all these years I have just been let down and I really hate that and I don't want to see my kids go through that so like that is definitely one of ice that I would give my kids is do not expect everyone to be around like you were gonna lose friends you're gonna lose family member

Listen that is such a lie we well I have my kids close to the end of my 20s into my 30s this is not the generation of village this is like the OU over here that's your responsibility

Yup so true I have only my parents and even then like they would never actually watch my kids and I don't think I would trust him he can watch my kids it's sad that the reality of it is complete opposite usual

Yeah I do not have a village to help raise my side whatsoever it's literally just me and my boyfriend and then my mom if she is able to help and it's literally just us three so it's very discouraging hearing like it takes a village to raise a child

Later I will do a part two because I definitely have more to say about this so stay tuned

Yes, I completely agree with you. I have never had a village. I am pretty much on my own. I've always been on my own since I was 17. I don't talk to any of my biological family other than my parents and my siblings.