When my daughter was 14, wife and I decided to buy her a car to use for her 16th birthday if she proved herself to be responsible, got good grades, etc. There would be a contract of sorts to ensure that we're all on the same page. The stipulations were continuing good grades, good attitude, she could only bring one friend with her somewhere, and we had to know where she was, and the obvious two, don't drink and drive, and don't text and drive. We made it clear that we're buying the car, but it was for her to use. We got the car, 2012 Honda Civic. She has a summer job right now, and she's on summer break, so she's out doing things with her friends, etc. In a few months she'll be off to college. Everything went swimmingly, until one day someone on Nextdoor app started posting pictures and videos of bad drivers in the area, and lo and behold my daughter was posted with her face down as she text and rode through a stop sign. Humps were her face in the phone at a stop light, I was livid. My wife was the one that showed it to me. We found out that there was more instances, and we decided no. Wife and I sold the car, we didn't lose very much in the process except our daughter completely becoming unraveled. It's so unfair, it didn't hurt anyone. Everyone else is doing it, how am I supposed to get to work? How about when I go to college? Well, we said no, it's unfair, you hurt us by being a shitty, irresponsible driver. Now everyone's doing it. You can walk, ride your bike, or take the bus. And as for college, you don't need a car to get to and from classes. Again, ride, walk your bike. She tried to play the how can we send your daughter to college without her safety in my car, and I said well well, now you're concerned about your safety, and she just jumped up and screamed. This has everyone in our life up in arms and divided. Her grandparents think we're being over the top and awful. That grounding her would have sufficed. We're threatening that they will buy her a new car again if we try to send her to college without one. The car is already sold, there's no going back. I think what we did was absolutely correct. That actions have consequences, and we would be in the wrong to pull back from that. In terms of her going to college, well she made that choice. She had a car, it came with certain stipulations. She disobeyed us, and now she must pay the price.