I made a post on TikTok about parenting and having anxiety disorder or mental health disorders. And by being disordered, I mean that it affects your quality of life across multiple environments and have been properly diagnosed and whatnot. And it's something I really deal with, like PTSD, general anxiety disorder, social anxiety disorder. disorder. And so I always think about like how it affects my kids. So some of the things that I try to do is I try to give him the language for emotions. And I feel like one of the things that that really helps with is for him to understand that his emotions are also okay. And that this is a safe space for him to have a witness to his emotions. Like I don't need to always correct his feelings. Sometimes I, you know, like if he's punished, she's going to be pissed and he's going to cry and he's going to go to his room and be upset and like, that's okay. I'll check in with him. I'm not gonna change how he feels. I'm not gonna even try. I'm gonna say, hey, it's normal that you feel that way. You still have to be punished. Like you still have to have the consequence for your behavior, but I'm here and I'm gonna love you even if you feel that way. And I noticed that giving him that kind of language and that kind of witness to his feelings helps him to kind of work through his feelings in a way that calms him down sooner than later. And I think he doesn't hold on to like the intensity of his emotions for as long as he might if I was just disregarding it or telling him to like, you know, stop crying, you're punished, doesn't matter. You know what I mean?

Oh I love this because so many people just don't have that self-awareness they don't even really know how their feelings are not in touch with themselves so I excellent job excellent job and you know I have severe ADHD and autism and a I wasn't diagnosed until later on in life and now my kids are understanding more but it also helps them to cause