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Would you date someone with no label or commitment? So basically what I just said describes the situation ship and I keep seeing and hearing about them all over social media and in real life and I will say right now the answer is no. I've been there done that never again and right now I'm in a relationship that's knock on wood healthy and happy and I adore my partner and And one thing that had us be really exclusive with each other in the beginning was that we set a Commitment to each other and being like hey like I don't want to see anyone else just you and it really set the tone for things But I want to know Your side of it like do you agree with what I'm saying or do you disagree and you're cool with the situation ship because in 2023 I feel like this is a direction that people are going and I don't know how to feel about it really So yeah, we'd love to hear your two cents.
I mean if I repeat both knew and understood that that's what all it was then sure because that's just what dating is but I don't wanna hear nobody get mad when I get a partner and you're not that partner so
I totally see where you're coming from and that's why I was saying earlier that no matter what happens someone's bound to get hurt and if it's not you it's the other person. So yeah, good point.
Right, like, why would you want the benefits of a relationship but all the ambiguity? That just does not sound... somebody's gonna get mad and it's not gonna be me.
Yes, that part exactly. I always tell people why would you give somebody the privileges if they don't want the responsibilities? And that just goes for anything in life. Like, I always tell people they gotta earn it. You don't just hand it out.
There's a pretty big difference between simply going on dates with somebody which is what dating is versus pretending like you're in a relationship with them or genuinely thinking that you're in a relationship with somebody even though you guys never decided that which is what a situation is and a lot of situations don't even involve actual dating it's just being delusional so yes I would date without labels or commitment but I would never pretend to to begin a relationship with somebody.
Oh, this is an awesome response. Exactly. There's a difference between pretending and knowing the reality. big, big, big deal right there. Thank you for sharing.
Okay bye if you don't know that they have a little commitment or green or that's not real because I've had the arm yeah I wouldn't date someone if I knew the cog with me on a Sunday number phone then fair enough play funding inflict Marie some shit now
Exactly, I totally agree with you. Like, I wouldn't be able to date somebody that wouldn't be able to commit to me in any way, shape, or form. But if you're dating for fun, which is great, as long as you communicate that from the start, then by all means do what you want to do. But I feel like people who avoid the communication talk, like, it's just gonna make things worse for everyone. So it's just better to speak up, and if things are not aligning, it's just better to move on. But yeah, great point here.
Sometimes for a situation ship though, I don't think it's considered dating right like some people are just hanging out at home and watching TV and ordering food some go have activities together but there's no label so is it really is really easy.
This is so interesting because what you just mentioned in terms of activities like staying in and Making food or ordering food in like some people actually do consider that a date but going back on the situation ship talk I have found time and time again There's always one person that catches feelings and wants it to progress to a full blown relationship Not all the time, but you know sometimes and so I feel like it's kind of a risk like if you're gonna date somebody with no labels because for me like I'm just way too emotionally invested.
Oh yeah, there's always one person, right? Like that's the thing of these situationships. It's just always in balance but Now that I've gone through a a situation where I'm like, wait, that's not considered dating. That's just the limbo fees right before dating.
Oh yeah, definitely the imbalance is very true because I was in a situation ship and they're done that never again. And I just could not separate fact over feeling like I was internalizing the future and like found myself getting attached. So I had to end things and move forward. And the guy was just like, whatever about it. And I was thinking to myself, OK, I just wish I was single. Like I can't do this. So, but yeah, I get where you're coming from and I'm glad in your experience that you were able to go through what you did.
I personally could not because I need to know exactly where I stand in your life. I don't want to have to play the guessing game. I don't want to have to try to figure out are we only dating each other or are we oscillating other people? Are you serious? Do you want to be committed relationship or not? Like I need to know straight up what it is so I can move accordingly
Yes, exactly. Like I too need to know where I stand and if someone's not committing to me and not like showing action That they want to like why am I wasting my time? Like they're wasting their time We're both not getting what we want and it's just better to move forward like it's gonna hurt for sure but it would hurt to stay even longer if you get what I mean.
Okay, that's fair. I see where you're coming from. But what I was trying to say is that if you know you're not gonna date somebody without a label, you might as well communicate that because some people are okay with that, but people like me are not. Like I need to know where I stand and where it's gonna go because it's just better. Communication is key. That's what I'm trying to say. It's like, not enough people communicate that, but I'm glad you're speaking up on that because that's where you're coming from and I respect that.