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So I was talking to somebody tonight about myself being a bit of a germaphobe. I fully admit that I'm a neat freak. I like things to be very clean and with you know the way dating is I know that people have their differences which is why I want to ask you could you be with someone who has a different level of cleanliness because I can handle a mess or two okay but if they're just straight up being messy, I don't think things can work out because knock on wood, I'm not trying to, you know, start fights or anything but I have heard that being a leading factor in couples in terms of like who's gonna clean what, like almost like a chore chart and I'm not really looking forward to that. I rather just us taking care of things collectively and maintaining a clean space if that makes any sense. But yeah, we'd love to hear your take.
This is such a valid question and I think it's very important actually to be somewhat aligned on this issue or topic because Otherwise it probably would end up being a lot of fights surrounding it because I feel like If one of the persons in a relationship is a lot more clean than the other person Then that person is going to take on most of the cleaning and it's going to end up being annoyed that the other person doesn't and if you can solve that in a good way like talk about it.
I heavily agree with you that it's so important to be aligned on topics like this because something as what seems to be simple about cleaning, it's your environment. It's your home and even people when they travel a lot in their cars because I know people who have a very messy car and I know some people who keep it very, very spotless. So again, it goes from person to person. That's what I was referring to because when I'm with somebody, like you said, it's easier to be on the same page.
I can't begin to tell you how many horror stories I've heard from people who've moved in together and so many of their fights stem from cleaning and they stopped cleaning just to see if their partner would pick up the mess. Nope. And then they get more mad because they're like, hello, you haven't noticed that I've stopped cleaning and you know, becomes this whole spiel of massive fights, which is what, you know, knock on wood. I don't want anyone to go through. So that's why I I felt I wanted to bring this question up.
Well, let me different level sure slob. No No. Super clean? Yeah. Slab? No, I don't think I could be with someone slug. It's a reflection of how well you take care of yourself.
I 100% agree with you that how you are is a reflection of how you take care of yourself in these type of situations and to bring up your point further, not to disregard anyone with mental health issues, but I have seen so many videos on TikTok of individuals who are depressed and they let their environment, especially home environment, get to a really unhabitable place and they try to clean it to have a better mindset.
Yeah, see exactly I feel like that's why it was important to bring this up because everyone has a different perspective on things, right? So I'm glad you spoke up here. So thank you for doing so.
Well, that's very fair. And to each of their own. You know, that's why I wanted to bring up this question just to see where people were on this subject. So, yeah, thanks for answering.
I'm so glad I'm not alone in this. Thank you for speaking up because I cannot begin to tell you how many times I've like brought up the word germaphobe and people think like I cannot touch something. That's not what I meant. You know what I mean? It's just about having a clean room and having something in order, you know, and things being completely neat. You know what I mean?
So this is something that my partner or being with my partner has taught me is that there's a difference between cleanliness and tidiness. So for me, I am a very clean freak person. I don't like dust, dirt, that type of thing. But for him, he's a very tidy person, so he likes everything to visually look nice and doesn't really matter about the other things. So yeah, there is definitely a difference, but it works I guess on level.
Okay now I'm mind blown because I didn't even factor that in that there's a difference between cleanliness and tidiness and now I just suddenly want to reorganize my entire house now. So Okay, new cleanliness level unlocked. Thank you for bringing that up.