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Would you be fine going on a double date? For me, I've always thought yes, like it's fine and so have many other people in my life, but recently I had someone tell me that you know you don't really go on a double date until things are serious between you and that person. So it has me thinking, is it really okay to be on a double date especially in the early days of dating or Is that just a no-go?
First of all I think rules like that are just ridiculous it's just why make a rule just do what's comfortable certain groups of people will be comfortable and sometimes it won't be but I don't really like putting a rule on it
Yeah, I had a post about this last week about dating rules because I don't know, I just feel like there's so many and to be really honest with you, I don't follow like a good 99% of them because it's just never really spoke well to me if that makes sense. Like I've just never been able to get on board and yeah, so when I heard about this double date thing, I was like, okay, maybe if that's what people are thinking, I just want to ask around. So I'm glad you brought this up.
I'm glad that you're open to experiencing it because I'm not gonna lie like when I was on a blind date it was a part of a group situation and it was a triple day I believe and it was just it was really awkward and so I definitely don't recommend doing that in the beginning stages especially the first date but if you really know your partner well enough and then you go on a group to eat. Let me know how that goes, like I would love to know.
I think for me, let's say like my partner and I go for a dinner as a date I think for me that is a lot more cozy if it's just me and him So we could get that alone time and just talk and like be present with each other. So I don't think I Wouldn't mind it like going on a dinner with like another couple or that sort of stuff, but I I mean, yeah, I don't know it depends on the situation rather and like the mindset you have going into it.
I think in the beginning, I mean, I do feel like if you're doing a double date, it might be harder to get to know the other person on a more deeper level. But then again, you also get to see how they interact in a situation with other people around. So it's like pros and cons to everything. But I think it depends on the person and the situation and like the, yeah, each to their own kind of what works. but yeah I think there's could be positives and negatives.
Yeah, I totally agree. It depends on the situation because even something as a meal can be really intimate and having that quality time. And for example, if I knew in that entire week I only get one date night, like I would prefer it to be with him than with a group of people, if that makes sense. I know I'm not trying to sound insensitive, but yeah, for example, we're going like mini golfing or bowling or something that's more of a group activity. Yeah, I don't mind going on a double or even triple date on that. Like, it's nice to be in a group setting for those type of things.
I totally agree with you that when it comes to you and your partner that if it's in the beginning It's obviously a little harder to get to know them better But what you just said with the pro of that being you know interacting in a group setting and just seeing how that individual reacts is nice to have. So yeah, I really appreciate you bringing up the pros and cons about this.
I'm not gonna lie the whole concept of a double date. It looks good from the outside but when you think about it closely I think just you choose more than enough like I think it's all a little bit forced in my opinion so yeah.
Oh yeah, I definitely agree that it can feel like a forced decision if that makes sense because you know obviously it takes two to tango, right? But when there's multiple people you're like, oh wait, like you know, you know, you kind of feel bad if you tell them no, or if you try to reschedule you're like, oh but they you know took time out of their day to see and you know it gets a bit complicated so I see where you're coming from on that.
I've never gone on a double date with my boyfriend and another couple I've actually always wanted to go and do that but we've never done it yet but I wouldn't mind you know as long as like we know the other couple or yeah or else it would be kind of weird well not weird but just kind of awkward
Exactly. That's why I was telling people that, you know, if you go on a double date, make sure it's with somebody you know, and so that way things are not weird or awkward because there's nothing worse than silence, especially when it's like prolonged. You're like, okay, wait, what do I say next, you know? But I would love to eventually do like a Disneyland double date, like something that's like an all day affair. It'd be really, really fun. But obviously, you know, it takes time to get to that point.
Yes and also it's important like to know what the double date is whether it's like a luncheon activity just so you know what situation you're going into but I've actually done a Disneyland double date with my boyfriend my cousin and her husband and I was actually pretty cool and I like once you're really cool with a couple or whoever it is if you're really cool with them it just makes it so much easier and it flows easier so
Yeah, I think generally I would have been fine. Like I'll be fine going on a double date, getting to know somebody. I think it also takes the pressure off and you can kind of mingle as like friends and kind of get a look into how they would be, you know, in the future if you went on double dates with your friends or his friends or something like that as well. So I don't see a problem with it as long as the person's comfortable and I think that's just the main thing.
I really appreciate how you brought up the word comfort because I actually had a situation. It was like a blind first date in a group setting and I was, you know, I wouldn't say misled. I feel like that's like the wrong word, but this guy was just not what he was quote on quote supposed to be and that just made the whole entire evening awkward. So yes, big on comfort.
Oh no, I'm really sorry to hear that. That really sounds like it sucks and definitely not an ideal situation to be in. So, yeah, I think comfortability is a big, big thing.
I'm really about to expose myself so I never went on a date before so but I feel like a double date would be nice But Amy, at the same time, you probably should just, all you do is just you and that person, you know?
I think it's fine because I don't know about that I like you really got another person I booked a person anyways like so sad can you and your friend is like bored as a bunny and you got this lol yeah any guy I'm a friend you know you got your friend so how do you make a great so y'all go to my life is a team and I are you talking about I'm not gonna double day but yeah that up