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I'm sorry but the motive behind the last one comes across as very rude and patronising. Like you're not even taking into account what is going on in their lives. For instance, I can be saying yeah I'm sorry I'm sorry I've just been a bit stressed recently because I'm planning my grandfather's funeral. You can now just say well you don't need to apologise for what your stress has done to you but for what it's done to me. That's rude.
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In fact, the last one comes across very selfish, because one, you're not taking to any account at all of what they are feeling and why it's gotten to that level, like you don't know they may have family drama for why it's gotten to that stage, you don't know, but what you now have done is telling them to apologise for why they are stressed, to you, yes!
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And I'm sorry, but it's rude to now go up and say to someone, oh, they've apologised to you and they've told you why they're, they've been that stress. The best thing is just to accept it, not now come back with the most selfish statement ever. Oh, you don't need to apologise for what your stress has done to you, but you need to apologise for what it's done to me. That is rude beyond the highest order.
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I love this perspective and take because you're right some people they just act out you don't know the reason behind it because Stress can mean different things for different people I feel like the only time that the last apology would be valid is if that person never takes accountability or Understands how to regulate their stress properly and their emotions and the other person is constantly being a punching bag Then I feel like you know
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Is a proper apology and retort because of something that has been ongoing. But you're right, if somebody is stressed out because they're planning their grandpa's funeral or whatever the case of something being extreme and just a one-off case, then that is not the kind of way to combat that. You know, there's no compassion or empathy. But, you know, if that person is not their first rodeo on how they've been treating the other person due to stress, then yeah.
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I feel like the last response is perfectly adequate, and it has to be followed with reasoning and an explanation. You can't just say something like that, you know. There has to be a why behind it with receipts, you know, because nobody deserves to be a punching bag for anybody's emotions, especially stress. That's not a fair, ongoing thing.
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I agree with what he's saying and it is about mental health and it's about boundaries. Everybody makes mistakes and everybody does things that they don't maybe consider the other person, but if you know you willingly said something without consideration for the other person and they are calling you out on it, don't feel angry about the calling out. Own up to it. Own up to your mistakes. A lot of people don't want to do that and then you're arguing in the comments and you're getting heard about what you said, but you know you did something wrong, but why aren't you owning up to it?
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I don't waste my fucking breath on no motive apologies. I just say go fuck yourself
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