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Man, this is even a hard one for me. I've been both of these people, man. Sometimes your family, because they know you the most, they know your secrets, they can hurt you the most. Sometimes I may need a little bit of space. I need a little space before I even forgive. My first man.
I think family is meant to be in your life for a specific time. Not all family is going to love you and not all family is going to understand you. The only father that will ever understand you is God. So believe in that Father.
I think it depends on the situation, um, because if it was done with malicious intent, I'd definitely distance myself and go no contact or low contact, but if it was something like an accident, I definitely could try my best to forgive them for that.
Yeah, my family don't support me. I do everything on my own. The thing is, like, my family do not care that I'm like this and like the way how I am. They do not like the way how I am.
I had a fight with my mom's husband. It was a brutal bloodbath. And since then, I have no contact with my mom and my mate. Oh, that's like my mom's husband. So yeah, I love it.
My family, they don't know me the most, honestly, actually. My best friend actually knows me the most out of anyone, but if my family hurts me, it depends on who it is, whether I forgive them or distance myself, to be honest.
I also think it depends on the situation. Like if it's minuscule, like, oh, they just said something mean to me, but they didn't mean it, like I'll forgive them. But if they do something to me, like that's bad, then I distance.
I also think that, you know, family doesn't always equal blood. Like my best friend of 16 years, she's my family. She might not be blood related, but she's like a sister to me.
It depends on the situation, but when family hurts me, I'm most likely to distance myself and depart from them. There's no point in having such family members do that to you.
Now if this was a situation where a family member publicly humiliated me, I would publicly communicate with them and confront them and just let them know these are my boundaries, you cannot speak to me any kind of way and that I would remove myself from them.
I'll tell you this much, when I distance myself, I got my respect for my family. And now look at us now, we have, we both learned to respect each other's boundaries. And I love them, regardless what they did to me.
I forgive but I never forget but I also don't hate because I can't imagine myself spending my entire day of one of my days thinking about someone I do not like, you know?