Given the fact that this is all social media and all makeup, we still tend to want to look like other individuals. We may not even show it. We may not even say, oh no, we're confident. And I'm confident in how I look, but then there are certain things that you want from a person, better teeth, better, smaller st-

You know the highlight beauty is just like social media marketing. They're marketing a particular type of beauty that needs to be you know Socialized and prioritized to other people, but they don't look like that But they want to look like that and the fact that we don't give you give ourself love is hard

Now the reason why it's so hard to give our love, like our self love, is because we tend to give out more. If we didn't experience certain love, we don't want to give it to ourselves, we want to give the love we didn't get to somebody else.

Hey fam, hey what's good sis? Voice is messed up but I do want to reply back and let you know I appreciate the responses and yes it is hard to give love to yourself when we give it to everyone else.

Loving ourselves, I feel like it's just a simple matter of just teaching our children from birth that they are worth love, that they are worth being embraced, that we are worth being picked and choose by ourselves.

In African cultures, putting a divine self image in place is instilled in the babies so as you're coming up as a child you are taught to love and respect your children.

So to love yourself and to understand yourself and know yourself. It's one of those tropes that are commonly typed out. However, it's also a

It's also a nod to our history and to our lost culture and when I say our I mean displaced beings mostly from Africa whose development was interrupted.

So from that perspective we're in a foreign culture that does not cater to the being, to your spirit. There's nothing spiritual in this culture, but we're spiritual people and so your spirit, your self, your inner self needs cultivation.

Because we do not cultivate a divine self-image as standard in our culture, we then grow up and look for external things to fill in those blanks of the things that we actually need.

So because in this culture it's not normal to love yourself it doesn't mean that you know people Therefore can go through life without understanding that you should love yourself And most of us come to it after the brains been fully developed 30 years ago

28 to 30 years later where we kind of have a second wind and then we can implement that confidence within ourselves but it should be standard in our culture for that to be instilled and we're seeing sort of a comeback with it now

where parents are doing affirmations with their little ones now in the mornings, you know, so that they're starting, and that's helping them to develop a better divine self-image, and that's what we need more of, quite frankly.

So back to your point, sorry, we're not on a tangent, we don't, we're hard on ourselves because we haven't cultivated the self-image that's needed in order to be able to internalize our thoughts and feelings properly.

and then put us out into the world minus all the insecurities minus all the self unlove I won't say hate I'll say unlove

Definitely can't agree that I am very hard on myself and a lot of it is just the anxiety and overthinking. So, sound baths, therapy, it's all a process with me.

I also feel as long as I try to do something every day to bring me joy, that is always a step closer and a better step each day.

Hey fam, hey, I'm sorry for the cracking voice my voice. I'm losing my voice, but um, yes Executive we are so hard on ourselves and it is ridiculous But we have to learn how to be better

It really doesn't matter if you're 15, 5, 96, 12, you always have time to start all over again. Teach yourself new things and then once you learn them and embrace them, you can teach others. So I think that empathy for ourselves.

Hey fam, hey, I do appreciate your responses and I do understand, you know, other people making it seem like this, that, and the third, but you know what? Learning what we need.

Learning what is imperative to our needs is more important than accepting compliments or affirmations or insults from others. It will allow us to drive to move forward.

At the end of the day, I'm learning this every second of the day. Sometimes it gets harder than others, but I do realize that the blessing is encouragement to yourself first and accepting yourself first before you accept compliment.

There is no need for an Oscar or a Grammy or a compliment if you know yourself and you know your worth and you know what you stand for and you stand on that ground and you hold it 10 toes down. I appreciate it so much for what you've done.

Hey fam, hey excuse my voice. Remy, I think that's your name. Yo, yes, this is everything.

The best thing for us to do is to go towards the light and create a positive space for ourselves and keep that as the shield around us no matter what others say whether it's negative or positive.

Hey fam, hey. You know what? It's a good thing to have standards. It's a good thing to know what you want and know how you want it to be in your life. You are dateable. You are...