I need advice and need to know if I'm the asshole here. I, 24 female, have a brother, 22 male, who recently got married. We were never close, but I started building up a bond a couple of months back. I thought we were finally getting closer to one another, but turns out that was all a lie. Recently, I found out that he got married. His baby mom's revealed that they recently got married June 28th. I felt some type of way and confronted him about it. When I asked him why he didn't tell me something so important, which I wanted to be there for, he turned around and said, because I didn't need to know, and he didn't want to tell me. I don't know how to feel about it, but I told him I needed some space and time. He hasn't wrote to me, which is really depressing for me. I've been there for him and his kids recently. I started getting them gifts to try and make up for lost time. I was always there trying to give him advice, and my new sister-in-law was also giving her some advice on how to deal with my brother for his cheating. I told her not to marry him because he's a cheater and he's not going to change for her, and she got kids to think about as well. Well, it turns out she didn't take my advice to mind or heart or whatever you would like to say because she chose to marry him and chose to keep it a secret. So am I the asshole for not wanting to contact them anymore?