We're human, my dear. We all need time for ourselves. Yes, I love the fuck out of my partner and I want to be up his ass all the fucking time, but he needs his space. Just go ahead and give it to him. It's not you. Don't take it personal, love.
No, I totally get it. Like, I want to be under my lover's finger no while he's at work right now, but I mean, we have to give each other space. If not, you know, they're gonna leave us and we're gonna be alone. So it's either space or...
At this point I feel like he's leaving me. Like I don't want it. Oh my god. I just want to be around him. Seriously be around him. And I'm just worried about him because he didn't tell me anything and I'm just so worried what's going on with him.
Well, I'm glad to hear that you gave them their space and I hope that everything is good between both of you and you guys work it out, talk it out, feel it out, rub it out and just enjoy each other. Good luck with all of it.
Because if you don't deviate your attention, what'll happen, what'll end up happening is you'll just get worked up about it unnecessarily. And any ritual is not going anywhere, so what's the point? If it's...
And if it's going in the right direction, then also there's no point thinking about it then, everything is alright. If it's not in the right direction, there's absolutely nothing you can do about it, so just let it go and just...
Honestly, I think it just depends on the relationship. Like if you guys argue or you guys are not connected with each other's feelings when it comes to understanding each other or basically the communication, the lack of it.
Hey, without knowing any more of the story, I would suggest it's probably just for him, it's less about you, but you can ask that question of him. Personally, as a man, I need time by myself to recharge, to think, to be introspective, but ask the question.
Thank you for that. Well, he literally said that we're fine and that we're okay. I just need to relax and he just needs some time to chill out. But he's not messaging me. I don't know. I have no idea what's going on.
Okay, so with that little bit more information, I'd say, and this is only advice, take it or leave it, it's completely up to you, is you need to manage your expectations, you need to express what you need, so more contact and then go from there.
Yeah, I can completely understand why it would stress you out. So I think what you need to do moving forward is when it gets back in contact, is be chill for a little while and then after a couple of hours or even a day, is say, look, going forward if that happens again, can we not do that?
It depends on how much time you ask for, like is it a couple days or is it like an hour or something, but I've asked for a little time in a relationship before. I'm an introvert, I need time to recharge, but never anything more than like a day.
He's gonna ask you for a couple of days. Should I be worried? God, I don't know. I don't know, I just want to find out if something's going on or something's wrong with him. I'm just concerned, that's all.
Of course, because you care about him. Um, but, and I think two days, sometimes, if it's not a reoccur, like, if it doesn't occur very often that he has for two days like that, then I think it could be totally fine. It's time to, you know, recharge.
No, it didn't happen every time. Well, he did ask once and then this is the second one and probably the longest one like two days. I think and I'm just worried that's all like I'm just so worried because it didn't tell me anything.
If it's only the second time, honestly I think it's okay. I think it's okay, he just needs a space. And yeah, you guys will come back together and absence makes the heart grow fonder. So it'll be even better when you see him again next time.
I'll reference this by saying that I am in the most healthiest relationship I think I've ever been in my entire fucking life Um, and we are now officially engaged Um, maintaining your individuality is one of the best ways to prevent uh developing re- like resentment for your partner
He will literally like leave for like a whole weekend. Go a couple hours later with my friends, okay? He'll do the same thing. So no, not at all. In fact, having your alone time and maintaining your individuality is crucial to a healthy relationship.
well when I say things like this in a relationship like it's really simple I need some space for myself for my mental health because like all the time we're trying to understand each other it's really tiring and we