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friend told me that their high school friends message them and cut them off directly. Told them they don't want to be different and they want nothing to do with them. So my question is, what do you all think about someone directly coming into your chat and cutting you off like that? Like, how would you feel?
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I really don't think I would feel any type of way because like I know I'm a bomb ass friend. So it's just like All right Bye
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That's my exact thought. I mean like yes okay the trash took itself out um your loss so I really didn't want my friend to be sad but I could understand that they were sad you know.
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Well, I hope your friend is healed, you know, it kind of sucks like when somebody's like I don't want to be your friend Cuz like bitch why we won't be my friend like I'm the shit But now you and your friend have more time to kick you together. So get fucked
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I had a best friend of 23 years who cut me off out of the blue with absolutely no explanation. So I think it's good this person did explain to the other friend that they weren't going to be friends anymore. But it makes you evaluate what was going on, why they're not friends anymore. You have to reflect.
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Nothing is meant to last forever, so what it comes down to is trying not to take it too personally, but still try to learn from it, whatever you can.
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I saw a quote that said forever was meant for memories and not for people. So I feel like that makes sense in this case.
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I mean, I'm not really too sure either because like When you didn't do anything wrong and they just cut you off There might have to be a reason for it, but it just be like what the heck like Okay, I don't really know
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I get you. Honestly, I feel like they were blindsided because here you are thinking they are your friend and then they just snip snip cut you off out of the blue.
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So this actually happened to me. I lost a friend of 10 years and although you're bitter in the beginning, you realize as you get older that maybe them cutting you off was for their own mental health.
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This doesn't necessarily mean that you're a bad person or a toxic person in general, but if whatever you're going through is just too much for your friend or they have just some internalized problems that they need to solve, then it's perfectly okay for them to set a boundary.
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It absolutely is one of the hardest things that I ever went through because you know when you have a best friend or someone so close like that it's it's so hard to feel that absence but in the end you still have to respect them and respect their decision you don't have to like it but respect it.
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Yes, I totally had this discussion with another friend when I brought up this topic and she said the exact same thing you said and I have to agree because you really can't blame anyone for putting themselves with, right?
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As someone who cuts off everyone and leaving them without explanation, I think we all have the reasons and when we're being disrespected, something like that.
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I feel like if someone did that to me, I would just understand them and I'll just let it go because I think that person is not really contributing to my growth also so I think yeah.
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I think for someone to come to my chats and tell me that they're directly cutting me off is actually a lot better than being cut off without any indication or explanation. But either way, you're better off.
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I know some people would think, oh my god that's like so rude but for me personally, I mean yeah it is it is meant to be rude but it's also a good thing because now there's closure somehow.
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At first I was upset, but then as you gradually grow older you start to realize they do come and go. Friends do come and go, but the ones that love you stay with you.
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So this happened when I changed my school after 10th. I wasn't in touch with any of my friends from previous school and it was tough in the initial days but you get used to it.
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After that, we reconnected after a couple of years and it was as if there was no break in our friendship. Our bond was as solid as ever.
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Sometimes a little space in any relationship is healthy. You know, you need time to work on yourself and maybe your friend needs to do the same.
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So, it all works out in the end. I mean, in most of the cases.
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So I got cut off by my friend, by him basically saying he didn't fuck with me anymore, which is cool. But then he turned back around and realized I was the only friend that was actually a friend to him. But it was already too late. You've made your bed, now you gotta lie in it.
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