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This might not necessarily be what you're asking about, but at this point I'm pretty sure that I manifested the dissolution of a completely dysfunctional friendship.
I still struggle with ending relationships that no longer serve me and that are actively bad for me to be part of. And this one, this one was a long time climbing girl.
She started making a bunch of terrible life decisions and I saw the train wreck from a thousand miles away and you know what I did not want to be there for when her life crashed and burned. I did not want to be her support system.
I really struggled with whether it would make me a bad person to leave a friend when times got rough. And I really had to decide what my boundaries were and what I'm going to be available for when it comes to being there for somebody.
Fortunately, she made it easy by basically stealing my money and she's never done that before. Um, so yeah, I could easily put my foot down at that point. haven't talked to her since.
Overall, I'm so grateful for the experience though because it caused me to upgrade majorly. At this point, you don't get to be in my life if you're going to make a bunch of terrible decisions And I'm not going to be the support for someone who makes a bunch of terrible decisions.