Yeah, so I dated this girl who was a 1000% people pleaser and I'm not gonna lie nor sugar coated it drove me absolutely nuts because I wanted her to just be her. I didn't want her to think for me. I didn't want her to live for me. I didn't want to live for her. I just didn't want the codependency shade of it. I wanted her to just live her life and allow me to live it with her, but it didn't work like that. So I need to know on the majority of the majority side, do you like people pleasing? Are you a people pleaser? Or are you somebody who makes your own decisions?

I can't speak for the girl that you dated but I can speak for my own experience. I've actually been in that position where I did a bunch of things and you know it's because I didn't want to be alone so I felt like okay well if I please this person or that person at least I have somebody around me and did not work out for the best and I've learned that the hard way and so these days I'm all about individualism and doing your own thing 100%.

I'm a teenager so you know I don't know I don't know if that changes my opinion but I myself I think I am a people pleaser I don't mean it but at the same time I do I think it's annoying but then I'm just like oh just make them think you're not a people pleaser to please them so then I suddenly please them.

Individualism, definitely. Because I am unique like my fingerprint. Peace!

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100% finds someone that wants to be by themselves and like wants to hang out with you obviously but also wants to be like by herself sometimes, have her alone time, maybe family time, like not 24-7 because like my last experience with that and I was there 24-7 for them, they just just ended up using these so I mean it really goes both ways but yes 100%

So I feel like my advice in general is to kind of like be selfish you know try to be selfish I feel like you'll gather more respect that way and also you'll find out things about yourself that you might have not necessarily known otherwise So that's my advice.

I mean don't get me wrong there's really nothing wrong with wanting to please the people you care about There's nothing wrong with that. What is wrong is when you Kind of put yourself aside for the sake of other people and that can really set you up to be taken advantage of Or like I said before people can not respect you as much So put yourself first. That is my ultimate goal for everyone.

Uh, you see, to be honest, I feel like I'm not a people pleaser at all. I may be materialistic, but I'm very humble when it comes to relationships. I don't like throwing my relationship out there, because I feel like there's a lot of people who talk shit and do all those things, and there's a lot of people who say, oh well, you shouldn't do this in relationship, you should do that. But it's like at the end of the day, I'm a man, I make my own choices, I'm gonna do what the fuck I want, and that what other people want me to do.