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How do you politely reject someone? Long story short, I was on the phone with my partner tonight and knock on wood. Everything's going great between us. But I brought up that there were a couple guys from my past who, you know, approached me to date and I rejected them. And the way I went about it was just straight up telling them I'm not interested and, you know, hoping they would get the hint. But even me saying that was not good enough, apparently. And it reached a point where I was like, hey, I really don't know how it could be much clearer about this. So now I want to know, how do you politely reject someone so that if you know if this ever came my way again that I could actually say it in a way that's understood the first time around.
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Honestly like I had trouble today and I was like no I just don't think it's you I just don't think we're gonna be good together I just was like no no it is it's not it is it it's not so like yeah I just said citrus because he appreciated that
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I like how you were direct with him because oftentimes you hear that people aren't and then they wonder okay like where is this going but I'm glad from the start you said hey look This isn't feeling right and it's just best that we're not seeing each other anymore. Good call.
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I think the easiest way to politely reject someone and just say that you're not interested in dating right now or I think would be better as friends that I was works for me anything where it's like you didn't you don't make it mean I guess but yeah
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You know I'm curious, when you tell some guy, oh I think it's better that we're friends, do they ever attempt to ask you out again because I've had that happen and it's awkward to reject them a second time because you think you're in the clear the first time? You know what What do you mean?
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You say this hey I really appreciate this you seem like a nice person I'm just not interested that's it I'm just not interested I need to give them a reason the most polite way to say hey not interested have a nice day
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Yeah, I really like what you're saying keep it short and sweet and you're right Not everyone's entitled to know where you're coming from. No is no.
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You're not rejecting someone. You're declining an offer. Reframing is critical because the prospect of rejecting someone makes us feel bad, which is where this wishy-washy energy comes from, whereas the understanding that you're simply declining an offer makes it easy to say thank you, but no thank you, which is all that needs to be said. It's polite, respectful and most importantly it closes the door.
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The most important thing is the energy behind it. So, speak firmly, but speak with love, and a smile. And then turn away.
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I totally agree with you that reframing is critical. You know, I always tell people to shift their mindset on so many things and I don't know why I didn't even think about that in this type of situation. So thank you for bringing that up. It's so so so important to realize this is declining an offer. It's not rejection. Really, really, really appreciate your two cents here.
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You can't politely reject someone you can only honestly or not and honestly rejects one by that I mean you make it clear is that alright I don't want to be with you but there's only three and then there's like I don't think we should do this right at the restless known as Gimme! Gimme! Gimme! you can only reject someone once after that if you're clear enough of the rejection and they still wanna push you there just obsessed and that's not your fault
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I really really really appreciate your perspective here, especially about the obsession, because you are so right. Something like this happened in the past, specifically with a former guy in my life, and I cannot begin to express how much I wish I knew that what you just said now versus when I was way younger and that it wasn't love it was a power struggle as well which was insane.
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Welcome to the world of love it's it's absolutely terrible I hate the summer I like it but also he has some
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I think it's just good to be honest, like obviously it depends on what the honest truth might be sometimes better to maybe if it's a harsh truth to hear then maybe better to keep it out but I think just trying to keep being as light as possible like I'm just not interested in you but I've Had a good time, but I don't see this going any further kind of But then again it's hard because some people might not be able to take that as a hint even effect.
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And I think if they're not, maybe the best option is just to block them or... I mean, if you've tried, you tried and if they can't get it or understand it, I don't think you should spend too much energy on it because It's up to them to get the hint or not, I feel like.
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Be careful who you talk to and speak to. That sound like the person was a stalker.
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I feel like this is really great advice for not only so many people in here, but it extends further to even social media. I can't begin to tell you how many times I've seen someone openly reveal parts of their life that, you know, someone can easily get access to and knock on wood. I just want everyone here to be happy, healthy, and safe. So yeah, good point in bringing that up.
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Simple and plain you could just tell them that you're not looking for a Long-term relationship with anyone right now and that you'd like to be friends with them instead You know you don't have to be rude harsh blunt just say how you feel but in a respectful manner
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I actually am in a relationship right now and knock on wood. This guy is absolutely amazing. We're in a healthy and happy relationship. And it just, you know, really surprises me, not just me, but other people when, you know, whenever you reject someone and they just cannot accept, no. So that's what I was talking about here because I've said it time and time again, hey, like I have a boyfriend, I'm not interested, but some people see it as a challenge. and it's like, why would you see that as a challenge?
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I definitely think just being straightforward. You don't owe people these deep and involved explanations Just letting them know you're not interested. You don't have to explain yourself I think it's polite to let them know that you're not interested because you're not leading them on I would if you feel compelled to Say I don't want to lead you on this is just not for me like I I think that's kind and polite too, because you're not wasting other people's time, you know?
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Totally right that no one owes anyone an explanation about anything, even outside this situation. And I do appreciate you explaining too that you don't have to leave people on and it's important to speak up and be straightforward, but some people really cannot accept that no. And it's just so interesting to me and I feel like acceptance is peace, that you can understand move forward.
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So I am actually also dating someone and I have people for my past also hitting me up so some thing because they honestly don't get the hint when you're like her not interested whatever something that works for me it's just being straight up being like hey I'm seeing someone right now not interested and if they keep going at it be like hey I have a boyfriend I don't I don't wanna do nothing with you just
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I totally appreciate you sharing that because it just goes to show that people are not alone and you know things like this you know and uh yeah you know I'm gonna say in the past I've had people be really persistent like no is no like I'm with somebody and they just like you know what knock on wood that we're in these happy and healthy relationships and And yeah, for some other people, they just really cannot understand that 1 plus 1 does not equal the world.
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