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Evelina Andersson

How much should we share with other people? #dating #friendship

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Arielle Van-Mballa • 392d

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Evelina Andersson• 392d

I don't know if you've ever noticed this listening to my previous soundbites etc but I'm a very big fan of communication and Especially on like how you can improve your communication and get better at it But I wanted to ask you guys a little bit about What's your view on like how much you can share with people? Because I've always been like a very open person like to my friends. I just like share so many details and like share most things about my life and I do think that at some points like I don't know if it's good I should it be better to not do it but I'd be curious to know like what are you guys's thoughts on this like do you think that people should be a bit more reserved and like keep more of more things to themselves or is it like a good thing to just be as open as possible So yeah, let me know your thoughts on this.

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John Stulpin• 391d

Being open and honest is a virtue and it's a good thing. Just remember early on you don't have to be an open book Look, people don't know you, and even though you might be comfortable with everything that's they aren't yet.

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Analis Floyd• 389d

Hi personally it honestly just depends about the topic of my life that I'm talking about a prime example is I was in a car accident that resulted in a brain injury and I have no problem telling anybody and everybody the story what I've learned stuff like that and get it really in-depth but like I say for example my actual relationship I try to keep as much of like the Internet working details of my relationship not out there if that makes sense

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Analis Floyd• 389d

And I do it because there's something about having the relationship be just between me and my partner and those that are close to me because it gives it more of like an intimate feeling so I mean will post pictures of each other on social media I'll have him up here on stereo but like any more details than that we really don't talk about like none of our problems know that like we just keep it really intimate

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Analis Floyd• 389d

So yeah I just believe that you know it's perfectly fine to be open and honest about certain things in your life like people view me as a really open person even though I still am reserved within certain topics like some topics that I really don't talk about unless people are like really really close and my best friends are like politics my relationship life my sex life like only those Kinda details I'll talk to was like my two closest best friends

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Evelina Andersson• 389d

Thank you for sharing this. I think that it makes a lot of sense to like feel that it depends on the context and like with the car accident and the brain injury very sorry to hear that by the way and I hope you've recovered well but yeah I think it's like something that happened to you and is therefore easier to talk about than like the inner workings of like your relationship and I get that sense of like wanting to keep like certain aspects.

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Evelina Andersson• 389d

of their relationship like private and between the two of you and I think like sharing with friends is different than like sharing with strangers as well So yeah, I totally get that. I think I'm a little bit the same although maybe not as much like I'll only tell my my close friends about like most of the stuff and be a bit more reserved to others.

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Arielle Van-Mballa• 392d

Think you should be honest as long as you know what you're telling them about and being vulnerable about. Be honest with the things that you know that if they bring it up again that you won't be hurt by it or triggered by it. So you have to be honest about what you're willing to be close about with people.

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Evelina Andersson• 391d

Yeah and I think it's definitely good to be a bit like restrictive on what you tell what people like some people you might be more open with and other you might be more close with so yeah it's definitely that sort of like weighing those pros and cons.

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Teeyana Aromi• 388d

How much should we share with other people I think it's good to discern who is for you and who is worth over sharing I can have a good good friend of mine and I could tell her everything that she knows every single detail about my life however sometimes during certain seasons i.e. let's say she lost her job and I just got a promotion don't be times where I won't say anything because

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Teeyana Aromi• 388d

Because I'm thinking although I know she supports me and she loves me she's in a period right now where good news might trigger her sadness so that's just one example and then I had another friend I am who I was just like after I saw that she would use certain things against me I was like wow you are not someone I can trust with every single part of me so I think it's just you just have to design to be honest

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Teeyana Aromi• 388d

I'm sorry this is the last one you're not everyone has good intentions about you know everyone is for you and that is absolutely okay and some people you need to let them assume whatever I am and if sometimes we over Sheneman over share as well because we really wanna help other people who want people to know you know I relate to you all I've been through that situation so many things player factor but again the signing is key

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Evelina Andersson• 388d

Thank you for sharing these different examples here. I think it's very interesting to follow your train of thought. And I think the way you think about it makes a lot of sense. And I do think like that aspect that you mentioned that you have one friend that will kind of use what you tell her against you. I think that's like key actually in like who you decide to trust because it is a matter trust who you decide to open up to and if someone does that.

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Evelina Andersson• 388d

Then naturally I think it's good to take a step back and it's also interesting what you told me about like if you're the first example if your friend is going through something tough you'll just sort of not tell maybe as much of the good news in that moment which I found to be interesting as well and definitely a takeaway and I think it all depends on the person as well sometimes some friends you might know can still take it and some might not.

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Evelina Andersson• 388d

And I think that in general is important to keep in mind that each person is different and they will interpret things differently and they will use the information differently as well. So I think, yeah, just what you said, being mindful of that and just share what we want to with the people that deserve to know it or can handle it kind of.