So what is a garden about to tell you a scenario so um What do you do if you've broken up with someone right you guys have a child home they moved on before you move on so basically they're in a new relationship on you're still you don't sing with you just had a child the child might be a sea not even a year or year old so the person that there with him is really really jealous right let's just say the person is really jealous and that's your child's father or you know your child's mom but will put us in the area since I'm a girl will say on it is your Is your ex boyfriend all right or ex husband whatever but then the new person that there with him feels like in order for you to get things for your child or to even speak to her now boyfriend or husband that you need to go through her So would you actually go through her or would you say to him listen we made his child she has nothing to do with it like that might be who you're dealing with but she has nothing to do with me and your child so definitely chime in and let me know what you would do in a situation like this all right I cannot wait to hear your response

So, when a child is in the picture, you have to disregard both parties' options and the people around them. you have to really focus on the child.

Oh, that's a good one. But yeah, no, I mean ultimately I'm gonna go ahead and do whatever is gonna be most beneficial for the you know, the child right so You know initially if I had to like go through this this stranger gatekeeper person I would go ahead and just do that just to make sure everything is smooth But ultimately I feel like there should be like a straight line of communication with the other parent like this hypothetical X or whatever in the scenario, right? So yeah, but

All right so I definitely disagree with holding a child back from seeing their parent that wants to be in their life but then again also it's like you know if you're uncomfortable with what the new girlfriend is doing and your baby daddy is being like yeah I agree with her that's the only way you can speak to me about our child that it's like you know how badly does he want to see his child like you both have to make sacrifices he can't just choose his girlfriend over his child

So we broke up we have a town now now we coparent we coparent in the best way we start thinking about ourselves and you think about the benefit of the kids. That's what we do and it requires you to have a lot of maturity some people can do it and some people can't do it and they get left out and then one person becomes a single parent

All I know is I'm getting to see my child. Fuck support. Fuck payments. okay

Honestly, it depends because I just can't put myself in jeopardy. For a child, I don't even know. I don't even know the kid like that, so... It really depends.