As a first time mom I remember when I first brought my daughter home I was bombarded by messages when people come over and I feel like I was in such a bad mindset Reven make those decisions and be able to tell people know like I want to wait and all that didn't happen which I mean whatever I did like the support though so she from both our moms but I am and I also received a lot of criticism as how I was doing things with my child And I think this puts such a heavy load on me and I just completely struggle because I can't always always I felt like I was doing something wrong because of the credit criticism that I would receive but really it worked for me and it worked for our daughter and there was nothing wrong with how I was doing things I was just completely different than what others were doing but then again I was constantly told them doing it wrong or shouldn't be doing it that way
This is something I never understood. I feel like the way moms do things or the way moms parents should not be anybody else's business. Everybody's just so quick to criticize every single small thing moms do.
oh my gosh yes i totally agree with you and it makes it hard for us moms to like go on with our day without thinking that we're doing anything bad because of all the criticism like it's not your life don't tell me how to raise my child right
At the end of the day, I think it all just comes down to opinions and beliefs. You're getting criticism because they have another opinion, obviously. But people are not always going to see eye to eye. And I feel like it's just...
I feel like most people just don't understand like when you have when you first have a baby like there's a lot of Like emotions hormones and just exhaustion that goes along with it. So I Don't I don't know?
The moment they get home, there's so much going on the first couple days. Like it's just too much. Like give me a week, give me maybe two weeks to like settle down before you even text me to ask me to come over or anything like that.
At the same time, it's like, give me a little bit of my space, you know what I mean? Especially when they come over and they just start like telling me what to do and how to do things. Like, I'm already overwhelmed, like I just had a little human being I have to care for, you know?
I totally get it, but at the same time there's just so much criticism towards moms. It's like how they should do something a certain way and what to do. Like there's just so much judgment towards moms I think.
Could be because a tradition in the house things have been for personal reasons and then they're like oh yeah let's do this let's do that blah blah and then they think they're doing good on on their part but at the same time it's a crossing the boundary and you want your space you want that
Definitely agree there is constantly a criticism even after being a mom for 6+ years I still feel like I'm being criticize or judge on how I'm doing a particular thing just cause it's not to someone else's