Have you ever been in a controlling relationship because I feel like the one that I just got out of he was constantly telling me what clothes I should wear or that I shouldn't post this on Instagram he wanted my passwords to some stuff and just didn't want me doing certain stuff while he was out doing the same things he didn't want me doing

I think we all have to some degree and I really think it breaks down to not holding your boundaries. If you're in a relationship where you'd rather get along with the person and have them like you, then stand up for yourself and what you want, you're being controlled.