Oh, I thought I was the only one.

And I said, like, whatever happened to waiting, you know, until you get married, like raising your children. Even though we raise them like that, I feel like if they see it and we drill it in them, then maybe they'll wait. You know, just saying. I don't know. I know I didn't wait.

So Amanda, at 14 years old, would you let your daughter have a boyfriend? At 14? I think that's a little too early to be dating, but that's just my personal opinion.

At that age I wouldn't mind because they're going towards being a teenager anyway, which is usually around the age when they gain interest in the other sex But they're gonna do it anyway Whether you let them or not

And if they're gonna do it anyway, I'd rather have them do it under my guidance and with my help than them doing it secretly behind my back and me not being able to do anything about it or protect them.

I don't want to view my kids as my possession that I have control over. They're human beings and they have the right to explore as long as it's under my guidance so that when something goes down I can help them.

It is not my job to restrict them, it's my job to teach them and guide them and let them explore and make experiences for themselves, but under my protection, so they can grow as people.

Actually, when I was 15, I was on birth control and had a boyfriend. My mom was pretty laid back, so she would only step in if necessary. So she would let me explore and make my own experiences under her guidance. And that helped me mature a lot. I'm a pretty mature person now.

My dad, on the other hand, was very restrictive and authoritative. And guess who my favorite parent was? My mom. Because of that. I also have to say I learned a whole lot more and matured a lot more through my mom's practices than my dad's.

Even though I know my dad meant well, his actions made me only fear him, possibly despise him, and I learned absolutely nothing from it. And that's not the point of a parent.

That definitely makes sense Amanda, because that's just like I have a son and he's 16 and I know he's probably having sex since he was 13. And you know we had to talk with him and I'm like listen if you're going to do it definitely use a condom because so many children don't so I get it.