So an unexpected thing about motherhood that I learned is about your village your village will ultimately disappear when you have children like example when I had my first my first my daughter I literally had nobody on I planned my own baby shower I sent out all the invitations I you know I did all of that to only end up having two other people come so it was me and just two other girls which really sucked and it really hurt my feelings because like I went to like all my cousins baby showers and I went to like all my family's events and things like that and nobody absolutely nobody in my family showed up for me at all just to friends and it really really sucked and it really really hurt my feelings and then like as I had more children than you know the whole village thing was like nonexistent at that point it was just me and my husband and I didn't have friends I didn't have like other moms I could go to I didn't have you know somebody I could call up and be like hey I'm having a bad day can you come hang out with my kids for a little bit I had no one it was just me all the time and it still Is But that's definitely one of the unexpected things that no one ever tells you about motherhood

Yes, I definitely understand this. My... I had so many friends were like, yeah, I'll be there. I'll be like, they're empty or whatever, you know, that bullshit that they say. And then they just are never around. Or they come as they please like don't stay in the life

Yeah, I feel, I mean, even this is non-children related, right? Like, people do this all the time. It's like, they say they want to be friends, they say they want to hang out, they say they want to be, what, a part of your life. and then it's just like hard to contact them. You're always texting first, whatever it is, nothing reciprocated.

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