I think for me, one thing I really admire about the birth of them is they both knew who they were, but they also had their boundaries in place so that if they, if it wasn't being met, they're willing to walk away. Whereas with the other couples, regardless of whether or not they were comfortable or uncomfortable, they would allow these people, their partners to cross their boundaries again and again and again. and again and it's like your boundaries are there in place to help these people love you it's not for people it's not so you lose people of course you lose you lose people when you have boundaries but the people you're losing they're not worth having to begin with so it's just better like they're just not being your life if they they cross your boundaries you know your boundaries are there to protect you at the end of the day not hurt you so I think that's That's definitely one thing, one reason why they've lost it. They survived love is blind because of just who they are as individuals coming into the relationship.