This is a serious question. And I know I'm going to get some trolls and shit, but hopefully this goes out to people that will actually answer this seriously, because I really need help. Um, I'm lonely. I have only my mom as family and I have no friends in real life or that I talk to online. Like I do have some people I talk to online, but they're very inconsistent. and I wouldn't consider them friends and I just don't know how to get out of the hole I'm in because I am depressed because I'm lonely but I'm I choose to be lonely at this point because I'm so hurt and I'm trying to heal from the ship from the past and I'm a very anxious person and it is not under control so I'm just wondering how if anybody else deals with this how they motivate themselves and do that because I'm genuinely fucking struggling so yeah
Yes I was going to say podcasts really work for me too especially when I'm depressed and don't want to deal with all the noise in my head it's easier sometimes to just kind of not think and just let the podcast play
Podcast you can sit with us is really cute it's usually three or four girls just talking chatting makes you feel like you're having some girl time they are the wives of the try guys but it's great as just a standalone podcast to their nice girls
Are you gonna have to tell me which podcast you listen to when you do things because I'm gonna be really honest right now I need to clean my room but I've been on this app and I really need to clean my room so please respond fast
I feel like true crime obsessed deserve a pretty feel good podcast they have like heavy topics well now they talk about murder and stuff like that but it's a lot of laughter and fun it makes me feel like this alone
Thank you for recommending those podcasts I've actually been trying to find a good true crime podcast and the one better than a happy seems really interesting I have to check that out and yeah I'm glad I suggest that you can sit with us it's a great one
Fellow loner here first of all loneliness can be good sometimes because it's peaceful so you just have to work on loving yourself and then enjoying time with yourself but obviously gets hard I do silly things like try to play the ukulele and read
All right so what needs to do is look at a different way are you lonely because you're not with someone or are you are you lonely because you don't know how to enjoy your own company just try to enjoy your own company I think you'll be just fine I believe in you
I definitely need him alone because I cut off my toxic friends and I just like don't have any family because that's just how it's been but I feel for the most part I can be alone with myself like I do love myself on the inside
On the outside I genuinely fucking hate myself like I have to get a blanket sometimes and cover my mirror cause I just can't like I literally cannot but like in where I I feel like I'm fine so I don't know
Brooke, I wish you the best in this lifetime and I hope that you take what I said into consideration because it can help you. know if you use it in the right way and if you actually stick to a routine.
Thank you I wish you the best as well I definitely am going to take what you said and practice that into my life as best as I can and hopefully I will get out of the whole women so I really appreciate it
I got mad respect and props for people that paid but I don't think I ever could just because I have a creative mind but I could never just put that on paper like that like there's just no way I don't know
80 go to the gym that's what I did not but like I used to be like really insecure about my body I'm just like in a dark place dead but then I went to the gym and I got some abs and I got some biceps and then everyone liked me and we're
It's a sad reality, but honestly it's true. like then other people will see that and then they're not gonna fuck with you like who wants to be around somebody that's I'm open all the time, you know? Like, and I'm saying.
Like and I'm saying this coming from somebody who mopes a lot like nobody wants to be always console like every time they hit you up, you, it's something going on with you or in your life or something.
Cool I really feel that but what if I don't want to trap people that are like that like where they're like oh you're fucking hot I want to talk to you already it's like why not just get to know me on the inside like why does it always have to be externally
Personally, when looking for friends, I'm looking for a vibe. I'm looking for communication skills, not being toxic and shit like that. Drama free type stuff. a person where that makes me more relaxed, not more stressed.
Do you feel like you attract people like that or do you feel like you actually have to find them yourself and look for a friend like that because arm I don't know if it's me or what but I feel like when I
Just let people come to me first. As a friend, it's extremely one-sided. Like, it's always about them. They don't really care to know me, you know? I don't know if that's like a me thing or that like I don't know
I mean that like honestly as an adult I have not been able to find any real friends like like you said it's always about them and things like that I've been going through the exact same thing like it's definitely cut off season right now
I love that. Now I have another question. How do I focus on myself when I'm very focused on the past? And it's very hard for me to let things go. Like that is the biggest problem mine and I don't know how to get out of it