OK so you're going on five years with your significant other and you find out that within the first three months let's say they actually had an affair and we're cheating on you but you don't find out till so many years later like I said you're that five year mark you already have a kid like you you're about to marry this person what do you do are you leaving them for cheating so far back where you know you've had this whole gap of like four years that have been amazing or are you going to leave them for being disloyal and dishonest for literally that like if they can keep a secret that long what else can they keep