I want to talk about screen time for a minute because my feelings about Screen Time are all over the place how I felt before I had kids how I felt with my step kids how I feel with my biological side my first baby how I'm doing it like I'm just all over the place and I think really what it comes down to at the end of the day how I feel as I try to use it as a little as possible I don't want it to be my go to and I don't want to be my kids go to I want us to exhaust all other options all other activities all other ideas before we turn to that but I'm not opposed to using it when we need to like when we had Covid literally all we did for three days straight was sit and watch true and the rainbow Kingdom on Netflix like literally because I wanted to keep him as calm and comfortable and happy as possible and he really liked that show so that's what we did for three whole day Is pretty much two or three days and while we've been moving we have been putting on a lot of miss Rachel a lot of hey bear a lot I have Bluey and just all his favorite shows I don't know it's just I have such mom guilt when I do allow like unlimited screen time but it's like why like why does it have this negative thing about it why is it such like a taboo topic like I know it's not good to do it every day all day long and I don't do that but why do I instantly feel like a horrible mom when I do allow them to have unlimited screen time and you know I know there are moms out there who do you allow that all the time and that's totally fine that's your choice I just try to do it as little as possible and even then I still have such bad mom guilt about it and I don't really know why But yeah I don't know just random thoughts how do you guys feel about Screen Time what's your personal philosophy
Yeah I think I am from you so same thing when they try to avoid as much as possible and I do know this but I do he gets like create if he starts like playing yesterday and I didn't put nothing and he was like playing on with his Play-Doh and then he start
Set of putting on his toes and then he started cutting a piece of them put them in the mirror and stuff like that so it's really cute to see how they patootie expands when they have the time to just be bored
I definitely agree I think that it's really important to let kids be bored sometimes because it just gives them the opportunity to like entertain themselves use their about your nation use some creativity come up with things to do
Like I'm definitely one for allowing them to be bored and see what comes of it like I know our older kids my step kids will be so annoyed with me sometimes when they would try to tell me that they're bored and blah blah blah and I'm like that's good be bored
they usually play outside for at least an hour or two after dinner and then after that they'll They'll take a bath and they usually just chill out and play games on their tablet or phone or watch movies.
Or they'll watch a movie but I don't really have a limit for them I know it's horrible and I know a lot of people are gonna come at me for it but they're usually on their phones for only an hour or two because the bedtimes at 8:30
I'm definitely not gonna come at you and I don't think it's horrible, especially What you're saying with older kids? They are at school all day and they do play outside and that's the thing for me I want playing outside or doing other things to be first.
And you know school is really hard and that's a long day and they don't even have that much time like as much time as they're in school they're not even going to be on screens that much because there's not that much time before bedtime.
Even if they weren't in school and playing outside, that's still... I'm not gonna come for you. I'm not gonna judge you. That's your choice as a mom. You know, it's not a safety thing, then I have no reason to tell you what to do. No one does.
Honestly, I don't really limit screen time. It just depends if she wants to do screen time or if she wants to play with her toys. Stuff like that, so I don't really limit it. But yeah, the screen time was just...
OK here's the issue so awesome I jumped off several parts cause in a 15 seconds so when you restrict something the more your kids are going to want it like the fact you don't have given them access to it
And by prohibiting it that also teaches your kid never how to regulate it it's kind of like when they got older let's say if they want to play on their phone at night right in the morning they'll realize OK they're exhausted and they're not able to like it or do things
Then they learn that like next time whatever they won't stay up all night on their phone like a lot of kids who always said when they're like 14 or 15 to get access to their phone for long term they don't know how to regulate the time on their own you know
And like you know you seem great like you seem like you're doing like you know you only want the best for your kid so I don't feel gets guilty about doing whatever you can to make sure your kid feels comfortable and you know what
And also especially with the situations you're talking about like that's perfectly okay, you know I I think that do whatever works well for you and just keep your kids healthy and happy. So yeah, yay, good job.
Yeah, I try not to do it a lot either. I mean now he's asking me for some shows that he likes and I'll try to do it if it's gonna let me get some stuff done. than that when I get this stuff done completely.