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so my boyfriend of four years has a friend at work that they're very close with she is a girl I've never had insecurities before up until now I know nothing is going on but she's just a very needy person because she doesn't have that many friends due to you know mental health issues and like genetic issues where she needs to rely on people a lot but she has openly stated to me that she has gotten herself in the situation where she becomes overly attached to the friendship with a guy girl or whatever to the point where their partner has wanted to physically harm her because she doesn't know how to step back and set boundaries she's currently doing this with my boyfriend and we are talking about setting boundaries but the fact that she's aware of it and doesn't seem to want to stop really bothers me and I don't know what to do
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You seem like a nice person, you know And I completely understand what you're saying because there was this girl like this in my boyfriend's life But she was probably way worse than the girl you were talking about me personally I don't want to say like tell him who he could be friends with But she caused us issues for like a whole year of our relationship and now that she's not around We are doing way better than we were ever doing when she was if that makes sense
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Like, in my experience, she will continue to cause issues. I know it's not the same girl at all, so maybe that's not what's going to happen, but I'll completely understand you if you did say something to him and you're like, I don't really want you to be around her, but at the same time, I know that's not exactly good for a relationship either, you know, like telling people who to be around.
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So, I'm sorry I didn't get to respond back. I didn't know my notifications were turned off. But she, um, just uses her disability. She's blind in one eye, so she can't drive. She kind of uses it as a crutch to try to get people to get her rides. Like, can you take me to the vet? Can you take me to the store? Can you take me to get medicine? Can you take me food shopping? And it's a little much. Even when we're hanging out, she'll text him and ask.
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So, we actually got into a big fight a couple times about her, because it was just her constantly asking. It's like, what do you gain out of it? You're basically her taxi, because she writes you an open-ended question where she's waiting for you to say yes to her for an answer.
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what she does is it's just her like oh i only have thirty dollars left to my name i don't know what i'm gonna do about getting to work or going to the store or feeding my dogs and stuff like that and it's like why do you leave it as an open-ended question where you're waiting for him to say yes
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We did get into a lot of arguments about it and eventually I just stopped arguing and was just like listen what do you gain from having a friendship with her and it actually made my boyfriend step back and actually sit back and realize hey you know all these things that she's doing and he's actually stepping back a bit.
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um also she made a name for herself at their job as like the drama queen and the uh person who doesn't want to work there and put effort in. so no one really wants her there technically in a way. uh and they work at a very cushy job they work at the call center for apple so
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Do you trust your boyfriend, has nothing to do with the other woman, has nothing wrong with guys having female friends and has nothing wrong with girls having guy friends? Do you trust him not to cheat on you with her? At the end of the night, at the end of the day, he comes home to you, think about that.
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