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How do you guys feel about age gaps? So I feel like Honestly like if you're an old couple where like shit the dude is 80 and You know the girl is 60 obviously who cares because they've been through Relatively the same amount of life, right? But I think it's weird when the age gap is 18 and you know the other person is 30 or 25 only because at that point the person that's 30 or 25 they've been through things already so they I feel like know how to manipulate an 18 year old and that goes for both men and women boys and girls like yeah but anyways how do you guys feel about age gaps let me know I'm I'm ready to hear it.
Me older now that I've experienced life a little bit, I have a different view on it. But when I was younger, I was like, oh, this is cool. You know, I wouldn't mind this. But now that I'm older, I'm like, oh, OK, that's a little...
But see, I feel like that's not your fault. I feel like a lot of times when it is an 18 year old, they literally don't know. They're just now experiencing adulthood themselves. So of course, they want a little bit of freedom.
I feel like I can't talk as much though just because I'm like yeah there's an 11 year age gap between me and my husband so but mind you I'm also not 18 I've been through life, you know, and I understand things, you know.
Truth be told he for sure would have never Been with someone that is my age because the level of maturity obviously and then me I didn't think I was gonna be with someone that's literally my sister's age.
But I just feel like, you know, they have to have some kind of experience if you are gonna date someone younger than you. And then hopefully the person older also has some sense to and they are manipulative, you know
I don't really think like you know when you look at old people or the people or like in the 30s or something like that And he tells you there used to be an age gap and then you do the math that Sometimes it it doesn't go right like I don't give a shit how much you love the person That's not right and nobody caught you during the time you were seeing that person and you're absolutely fucking lucky you got to still be with that person until this day unless being in fucking prison. That's crazy.
I agree and I feel like that's where it does become a little bit weird. But what if they are, let's say 80 and 60, but they met when they were, I don't know, 30 and 50? Would you still think that that's weird or that the timing was weird? Because for me, when it's older couples, I don't care, but when you're like 18 and 30, as well off for me like you said
I mean like that's not really an issue if like 30 or 50 or 80 or something like that. You know they're already old you know been through the the young years and shit like that if she likes older dudes. That's that's you know maybe a sugar daddy or something like that. that. That's really fine, but if the guy is in his 20s or something like that, and then when she's still in her teens and then, you know, she's still young, like he's getting mad old, that's a no.
I feel like an age gap that's like 67 years apart is like the max that I would be OK with just because I feel like like 10 years and like 20 year age gap so such a generational differences are such a difference in culture and how people perceive things and also like if you think about it at one time like if it is a 20 year difference you were literally not born when that person was like in their teens and like the culture is just weird I don't know it's just kind of tricky
you did you brought up a really good point like okay so for instance my husband and I we are 11 years apart we didn't meet when I was 18 or any of that weird stuff we met when I was 24 and he was 35 um and so for me it was like I've already had a lot of experience in regards to dating whatever And it's not like he was looking for anyone like young, but we definitely grew up in different times.
And so I think another thing is that I have older siblings like my oldest sister. She's his age. So I was around all that of what he was talking about but he actually experienced it. So it's definitely, that's such a good point. You definitely brought up a great point. Yeah.
I do agree. I feel like some people's ego definitely gets in the way, but I also, I don't know, for me I think it's case by case like Like, some people never have the intent on, you know, dating as young or as old.
but I mean I still feel like there's those cases where it's like oh my god why like it's just yeah this case my case to me but I definitely agree ego is a big part of it.
That is really interesting. So currently me and my husband wear together, but he's 11 years older than me and I don't get the ego sense from him um but I could see that I for sure
I want to ask some questions but I can see how you've been tactile in what you say and how you're trying not to say what you really want to say so But my question would have been how old were you? the younger one when you got with him the older one
I'm definitely down for some questions. I was actually 24 when we met and then he was 35. Mind you, I've been, you know, my oldest sibling is his age. So I've always been around people that are literally his age. So it was nothing that was like different, but I never considered dating someone that's as old as my sister. And then also too, he never was considering dating someone who's old.
I think, you know, it all worked out that we... I don't know, I for sure was not planning on dating someone that's as old as my sister. But I don't see anything wrong with it just because, like I said, I feel like I've been through enough. I have more experience, whereas, you know, I'm 18, 19. Hell no, that's weird. Yeah, no. And I feel like the same with him. He would not have considered dating someone as young as that.
Thank you for answering that Sit the thinnest it's all about the innocence the naivety of one versus the experience of the other one I will still say it hands down age equals experience Um At the end of the day when I was 24 I was very very naive. I was very innocent. I mean I was sheltered So, a friend of mine that was 25, was dating a guy that was about 35.
He happened to be very manipulative, very controlling and she had to think twice whether she wanted to marry this guy because he wanted to get married because he was saying to me she visualized the rest of her life and if he doesn't do things the way he wanted, eh, yeah, no, things wouldn't happen so she had to live him. So that's what bothers me even if someone's 24 and they're naive and innocent and a 35 year old man is very experienced, the man could decide to be manipulative even use that and that's what always bothers me, you know?
I think as long as it's like real love and not a weird situation and the person's over 18 and can make their own decisions, I don't think age gap should matter.
Okay, see that now this is one of those instances where I feel like it really does depend on the people the couple because, yes, there are times where it really does work out, you know? And then there...
But I, you know, we all know that there are also times where it is a little predatory, but you also can't help who you fall in love with. but I definitely, I'm so happy for you and glad that he makes you happy.
Sorry, it cut off. But I am really happy for you and that, you know, he makes you happy and you make him happy. That's what matters. But I have a question. Do you ever get like any weird stares because you are with him or questions about it?
I'm doing what you're saying because that person just turned 18. So yes, they do have different experiences But I'm also talking about like the 18 year olds that are dating like 40 year olds or like 30 year olds or even 25 year olds I think that that's a little bit sketchy just because you know Definitely like an 18 year old just began like adulthood, whereas if you're 25 and up, you know, you're kind of starting to figure things out.