Okay so I know that I have flaws and insecurities that I'm just like and I'm very open about them with my husband and as much as I'm like oh my god I don't like it I don't like it he's like I love it I love it I love it but my whole thing is is that do you guys ever like even when they're like oh I still love everything about you. Do you ever be thinking that they just like saying that because like they're obligated to say that or is it just me? Because like I believe my husband but at the same time I'm like bro you're so obligated to say that. Like you're so obligated to say that. But um yeah let me know because I just be thinking like hmm yeah yeah yeah you're too far deep into this to change your mind now sir okay um but yeah let me know

I actually love this question. I think it's very like, I think so too sometimes. I'm like, especially when it's a flaw that you really don't like yourself and they keep on repeating like how much they love it and stuff and I'm like how. But at the same time like what I'm thinking about this is like if you reverse the question, so like when When you think about your husband, for example.

It's not an obligation was more of a choice to decide if you're going to stick around and deal with this person is like good and bad sides because I have been in relationships how guys have told me they're like oh you have depression I'm trying to deal with all that I am trying to be like around you all the time if you're always gonna be sad bloody blah but like a lot of them don't know it's like sometimes I have good days and I have bad days it's not like I'm just sad like literally 100 million times out of the day

I think there's something that comes with a person so you will love the flows and the insecurities of the person that you love

OK so you had me obligated I'm gonna be honest I did not listen to the whole message because obligated was the word that caught me like kind of like ultimatum I hate that word I'll get it same feeling I guess It's a choice and you want to or you don't and for me it's about a simple as that

I love this question because at the end the day or partner should be allowed to decide if those flaws are a dealbreaker but if you're with a partner because you want to be perfect maybe shouldn't be a relationship it's because nobody's perfect and flaws and insecurities allows people to be human

On the other hand, if you're talking about something that bothers you, it seems like you wanted to improve it or change it or approve it or something like that. And if you've got understanding with your partner completely, he can tell you the truth about it and you can grow together, you know, knowing each other deeper. And yeah, that's about it.

I literally say this all the time Ivana like I'm like just say something like say the answer without like saying like you're my boyfriend like hello

So this is either my husband and I deal with that so I am severe ADHD and I'm also autistic he's very type a I used to be a very type a and it's called self editing but I was also very miserable him and it's funny because when I ask him why he loves me he says cause I'm everything he's not and add but also at the same time he is very structured very habitual very

I get it but you know like they safety for who you are you accept them from they are not some thing you're gonna have to just except or you gonna have to work for a second if you really want to be with that person again do you know our well-being are just experience no one's immaculate do you know the things that are imperfections as what we see through and worth it anyways I hope I don't have a cheese

Well it will be an influence from internal lockdown