Okay, complete transparency and vulnerable sharing moment with you guys. I'm curious, other couples on here, how long, how fast, how long, how quick, whatever, does it take for you and your partner to recoup after you guys have a little debacle? I don't want to like, or fight. My girl laughing over here debacle, yeah! Okay, whatever. Let me continue. Okay, thank you baby. So anyways, how long does it take you guys to overcome a debaucala? We have brought it down to about like maybe an hour and a half or so. It used to be a few hours and we wouldn't even like, it's not like we'd be going through for each other's necks or anything but obviously you know you'd have that little tension, little irritability and now it's like okay we need to chop this up because we do not have the time. So yeah, please let me know how long it takes you guys to do.
You know I think being vulnerable with your partners are great thing you just need to make sure that you've given him enough time where you can actually trust them remember people earn your trust and not just given it so being an open book isn't always the best thing to do right in the beginning
um if we argue typically we like make up not like you know minutes later but it's always by the end of the day um we don't like to go to sleep mad and with the circumstances how they are it's always by the end of the call or whatever the fuck um if we argue but yeah and and typically I don't miss me. That's like, oh fuck, I'm sorry, I was being the butt head.
I heard, okay well thank you for sharing your experiences. I'm sure it cannot be easy, like you know the distance at the moment definitely shows the strength in you guys so perhaps to you know you guys still keeping a relationship and working through it. That's the most important thing.
With my last relationship, um, one day, like, if we have an argument, like, it would take us, like, maybe a 24-hour a day to just, you know, figure things out. We're like, we just talk like the next day. So like that
I feel like recovery depends on how solid the relationship is because sometimes when a fight takes place if you know you're solid with the person you know that that fight is just a part of growth and you're able to MoveOn almost immediately however if you're not solid with that person that recovery could take time I suppose trust then is integral
Yes, you make a very good point. It makes sense how solid you are. It's contingent, bless you. It's contingent on the speediness that you guys recover.
I think try to solve things like quickly there and then or give them space to breathe but then like try and get back to equilibrium as quickly as possible.